Relationships are like seeds – you need to nurture them. The more you care the healthier it grows but if you ignore or over expect it starts shivering from the roots and finally breaks own.
Let me tell you one observation – In case you are very happy (you are feeling very happy) there are high chances that the relationships which matter the most to you are working well. And the exact opposite falls when you are sad it is probably because the relationships you value a lot are not working well.
Everyone of must has deposited money in bank, right? Why can we withdraw money from bank – because we have deposited the money before. Similarly, you can expect back only when you have deposited into it!
This is normal human tendency that every person expects back from any bond that he is attached to. But can we make it simple – deposit so much that you never feel that your withdrawals will be excessive.
Few people are like the fresh flowers – they come, bloom, spread fragrance, dry off and leave. But some are like those cactuses and thorns which stay back no matter what, which stay back irrespective of the weather, irrespective of the time and situations. They just stay back. Keep those cactuses in your life forever. A life with these cactuses is more blessed than a day with fragrant rose.
Relationships require efforts – they require thoughtfulness, they require patience, understanding – most importantly they require time. You can not simply expect someone to climb the Everest in their first attempt to trek, you need constant practise. Same is the case with our human attachments – with time grows the bond.
Summing it up – I would just say – Keep your cactus safe! I am sure everyone has at least one such person in life – express it to them how special they are. Be for them whenever they are in need!
Smile and spread smiles
Communication
This question peeped through my mind all the while throughout the day as I was sitting on the first bench of my Orientation Programme before starting my articleship days “As to why this 35 hours are a necessity when all you do here is just speak, chatter all round and nothing else?”
The question hovered me even on the last day and I wondered when will it be answered. And yes! It was answered rightly on the very first day of my articleship (where I was interviewed before, which as well included communication skills – because the interviewers didn’t scrutinize my results deeply, all they were interested is the way I present myself). It was my first day of articleship where I was accompanied by my senior and colleagues, and I was handed over a file to compare the TDS as per books, TDS certificates along with form 26AS. I was blank because all this was read in books but I never knew how to download 26AS, neither was I thorough with the accounting software. I kept staring at the files for a while with an awkward look till my senior came and with the bossy voice instructed me – “If you aren’t aware of things, ask for help and start working immediately!!” And then, I understood why was OP conducted, those 35 hours did work miracles and I could get through things.
Basically, not only on the office desk but at every platform communication plays crucial role. Giving you an example how effective communication helps you to make the listeners visualize better and in turn it makes the process of understanding the facts better. Let us just compare – and ask yourself which sounds better and conveys better.
1st way – I started my morning with coffee
2nd way – I opened the chilly winter morning by treating myself with a steaming hot aromatic coffee.
I am sure the second way makes you feel the situation right. Same happens in our teams while working, if we can convey the ideas well, we can convince well and gradually that affects our career growth. There are many ways through which we can be effective communicators like effective listening, reading of facts and having knowledgeable content to share in the right manner with the RIGHT TONE (very important when you are in a verbal conversation)
Simple way to start can be add minute details to your observation and these will be automatically added to your words.
Speak sensible and Spread your ideas.
Journey!
Don’t focus on the destination, enjoy the journey!
Having a conversation with millionaire who was in his early 70s, verbal sketch was something like – a wrinkled face with a sparkle and a glow flowing out, attire he worn was perfect for a business class meeting (though he was retired man), head covered with dove white silky hair (as if one could play the find-black-hair challenge), hands shivering but still the handshake was firm enough to understand the throw in his personality, he stood all straight without a stick, very meticulously he had a choice about everything – be it what he wore, what he read, what he ate and so on and so forth! Impressed by the way he presented himself to me! I actually looked upon this young-old man to throw light on topics like life, career, future, goals and stuff and initiated the conversation.
And there this man had a crisp to explain me these things – which normally sound as rocket science for teens and a big fat topic for parents to such teens! He just had summarized in words which meant that love what you do! Without the fear of what will be the result. The more you get result oriented, the more mechanical you are. The more you tend to fit yourself in a strict format, the more you happen to be machine. The more you get into stuff of pulling eggs in one basket, higher are the chances to topple and break a few.
He had his view explained right with an array of examples – he asked me to climb the morning in wee morning hours and then notice the way the sky changes it colours from dark night black to beautiful golden orange. The cold breeze that kisses you all the while you push yourself to the top. The silent darkness turning to the chirpy morning. Once you reach the highest point, the journey is over and you arrive to your destination, the view from the top is treat to your eyes because you have seen the canvas of sky with the most beautiful shades, you had felt the chilled morning travel its way through to the first ray of morning. The destination seems better and journey wont tire you even through its longest route if you simply learn to live the process and not the results.
And wow! How impressed I was to acknowledge this thought while recollecting the biggest of my achievements! You too can take it as an assignment! May be while cooking or while on your way back home or while on a walk, think of your biggest heights you reached and you will realize the result gives you satisfaction and sense of completeness but the minute you find yourself smiling acknowledge the memory you just recalled which was a part of the journey you travelled!
Get up and work!!!
It was a failure….!!! A bad failure again and she was left broken…. Shattered down in pieces… Complete depression as to what next… Because the result of course mattered a lot… And was like a gate pass to her dreams… CA!!! And multiple attempts were hand in hand… Was what she knew… But then not again was what her every drop of sweat she shed studying day in and out was screaming!!! But then that was it… The results were out and it was “FAIL”
She did start doubting herself and abilities now… Can I do this? Will it be possible? Were the 1000 questions crowding in her mind… Hitting nails on her future plans, the pain of which could be seen flowing through her eyes!! In entire darkness, there comes a fairy… A fairy friend… “Figgy” and the time she wasn’t able to trust herself, this beautiful fairy says… Get up girl, you can do it.. Not because of any other reasons other then the fact – YOU HAVE TO DO IT!!! You chose the dream… You chose the path knowing that it was tough… Because you knew you could do it, because you knew you are that capable… Not everyone comes here, if you dared to step into this…. Just go and complete it… Just go and give it your best…
That fairy didn’t speak a word of sympathy… She didn’t say that “may be hard luck this time… ” All she said was… Girl, get up and put in efforts, somewhere somehow your dedication was 99% and failure was because you lacked 1% to give in your 100%!!! So don’t shed those tears… Perspire and rise up…
That fairy didn’t wipe her tears… All she said was “tears symbolize that you accept you fell short of efforts… So go and give in again… ”
That fairy didn’t even ask her to take a break for all her depression, she just said… Life played on you… Now its your turn to play back… You were thrown right on your face…
(where accept parents no one stood back with you) so now you have to throw back and prove… You are not a FAILURE. Its matter of your hardwork… Consistent hardwork… Your sacrifices…
You feel insecure about friends leaving you if you are not in contact, then remember people who leave are not permanent and people who are permanent never leave…
You feel insecure about your love cheating, then that’s not love because love binds hearts forever… And it promotes each others dream!!!
Right now… All you need is your career… Your attempt…your goal… Cz may be you will get out of depression in a day or two… But there your dad is still struggling hard to see his daughter’s failure… He still silently cries late nights and prays for your success… There your Mom still quietly adds that extra almond in your breakfast saying this will help you in good memory and you will write your papers well next time…
They both just wanna see you successful, Girl!!!!
Saying this… the fairy sums it up as “Start studying and stop pretending” FOCUS and the next result should be exactly what you want!!!
PASS
The Girl was lucky enough to get that fairy in her life… And boost her confidence!!!
Guys this one is for you…. A fairy for u…. If this was a attempt where you gave efforts and still had to accept a failure… Accept your mistakes and give it another try… Sit with your books… Avoid social media… Learn write read use any technique suitable for you… Just go and give the attempt, but this time like a warrior… You are wounded with an failure and in hindi it is said “Ghayal sher jyada khatarnak hota h” Go and give your 100% the result is waiting…. The prefix of CA to your name will be your reward!!!
Just give in your 100%, not a little less nor a little more!!!
(dedicated to a friend who’s been source of motivation to me… My Fairy…. Love u Figgy… Thank you… And I swear this time it will be PASS)
You choose!!!
Choice is yours… Your future is something what you create by the choices you make…
Basically you constantly keep making choosing things from the variety of options available infront of you…
Few choices are simple and don’t bother much… Like wearing black or white… Like a e-book or crosswords’ copy…like high heels or flats!!! It doesn’t matter even if you flip a coin and decide when it comes to such decisions… But every thing can not be decided so haphazardly and in such lousy way… Few decisions need to be taken wisely… Few choices must be made after a deep study as to how will the selection of option throw an impact on your life…
“Because life is a canvas… A plain white sheet where if you throw a colur once.. Somehow in some manner it will be a part of your final picture, you might hide it with a darker shade for your satisfaction that its not seen… But its visible”
So choice is yours… To make or to break… Both are in your hands… Both are dependent on your actions!!!
Choose wisely… Your friends, your career, your lifestyle, your habits… Because it is creating you… It is making a impression of what you are…!!!!
Smile and spread smiles
Trust yourself
You are the greatest asset…. Trust your own abilities and you can be a grand success!!!!
You Can do it
You have to do it…
You must do it!!!
Just fly high!!!!
Smile and spread smiles
Being comfortable!
If you cannot bear your own silence and cannot handle your own chaos…. Little should you expect the world to handle it….
And if master this…. You will surely lead any situation in life to success!!!
Be comfortable with your own self!!!
Smile and spread smiles
Just a step…
There’s a old saying : “Anything worth doing well is worth doing poorly at first.” It is not practice that makes man perfect; it is imperfect practise that eventually makes one perfect.
Whenever you start something new, you can expect to do it poorly. You will feel clumsy and awkward at first. You will feel inadequate and inferior. You will often feel silly and embarrassed. But this is the price that you pay to achieve excellence in your field. You will always have to pay the price of success, and that often involves hard work of mastering a difficult task or skill that you need to move at the top in your field.
Your natural talents are inborn and easy to develop. They are all programmed in your subconscious mind. Now its your job to discover this area of natural ability and then develop it till you set a benchmark in your field.
You might be just a step away from multiplying your productivity, performance and your income as well. May be you just need to bring up your skills at an higher level. All skills can be learned even if they aren’t inherent in you. You just need to give in your heart and soul, practice and use your full potential.
(Inspired by – Goals – writer – Brian Tracy)
The day is yours
A brand new day has come to you… Make the best possible way to spend it… Enjoy…learn… Experience… Explore new things…
Create a trait, leave a legacy behind. Be the best at whatever task is given to you. Complete the tasks which you left incomplete yesterday thinking its impossible because its a new day… New opportunity and new hopes with fresh energy. Leave behind what you thought yesterday think positively and just give life your best shot…
Fight back so hard that life will think of challenging you next time!!!!
Stay blessed. Smile and spread smiles
You are special!!!!
Each of us was created for a purpose, a special reason. All of us were born with something that’s exclusive to us…. May be something which is possessed by only us…!!! There is a trait in every one of us that is worth of being looked upto and admired for, if we choose to respect and further upon that skill or ability that is possessed by us. The choice always lies with us. To view ourselves as worthy of the regard we actually want from the world. Guys!! Each and every tiny being on earth matters… Living of every single being is interdependent!
Life is like a mirror, reflecting back everything that you throw on it. As much as we place our worth on what the world believes or perceives of us, we fail to acknowledge that we are who WE look at ourselves like!! That is how self-confidence is born. Youneed to acknowledge your own value, you need to stand for yourself, you need to be your identity card.
And once you learn to be there for yourself the world salutes you back. Yes!! Because that is the circle of life!
Smile and spread smiles
Aishwarya Jaju 