Can you UN-LOVE Someone (Part -2)

Ananya – love is a feeling, it’s something that your heart feels for someone you are very comfortable with. Can a flower un-bloom and go back to be a bud, can a tree go back to be a small sapling, can you be a baby again – NO, right? That was a process witnessed. Same is love, it’s a beautiful journey you travel. Sometimes things work and at times they don’t. Just because you couldn’t make up to the destination doesn’t of course mean that you scramble up the entire journey! Just because you couldn’t end up in togetherness doesn’t mean that the time spent with the him were shit scrap! Ananya, sometimes God takes a person away because he has some plans for you in life, may be because he has got a better destination for you!

With that puppy face of hers and tears pouring out as if she will be filling buckets out of it, she asked me – Aisha, then why does God even take us to the wrong journey when he already knows that the destination won’t be met? And again, the unknown source of philosophy on me had to explain her saying – “Ananya, when you have evening walks holding your dad’s hand and just walk, do love the walks or do you love coming back home!? And she as innocent as baby answered the question saying I love our talks on the way! I love the time we spend, the silent streets and its me who chirps and dad who listens to the non-stop FM radio of mine! She went on elaborating till the time she herself realized the point and simply said “But Aisha, the situation is different, whenever I walk along with another guy, I remember the past! I accept the journey was one of the most mesmerizing one but then I can’t get over it!

Now what was there which I had to explain her regarding this statement of hers! Of course, I couldn’t end the discussion abruptly but this was also a dark truth that I had no words which could help her out at the very moment and so I finally got up… let myself to the window where fresh air took me to better thought processing! And Ananya followed me! She scribbled her name on the window pane and looked to my eyes expecting an answer!

And there I start again… felt as if the cool breeze was flowing through my words – Ananya, I went on – Tell me one thing what happens when you are too happy all the time – Answering the question myself I said – Look you cant be succeeding all the time, you cant have all the happiness at a stretch, you can’t always find yourself in the best places – because if that happens so then what will the magic be in dreams. We dream of things which are difficult. We don’t dream of eating an ice cream or simply walking down the street, do we? No, because we know that those are simplest things and they happen as if they are the routine!

To make one-self strong you need to go through rejections, failures and fall through a few phases in life. The way you warn yourself to run slowly over bad roads! The way you warn yourself before touching hot glass of milk! Similarly, your heart also needs to go through some ups and down to understand what is right and what is wrong, to decipher what hurts and what heals, to feel love and fall in love! Ananya it is a process and you can’t skip it gal!! You need to make yourself strong from all of this and face it all like lady not like a childish girl! My words were making their way through her heart and wow the smile I could see through her tears was a million dollar one! Felt like it was all done! I know she wasn’t convinced with the thought forever but yeah, she did acknowledge that though you can’t unlove someone, but you can surely fall in love once again and still be happiest! And I was happy to gift myself a self-declared position of a philosopher!

 

Love is one of purest feeling you can ever experience. You may fall in love and bruise yourself, you may feel the love and hurt yourself, you may even find yourself the most messed up when things go wrong in love! All I can always say is – LOVE CAN’T EVER BE WRONG!! You may love the wrong person, you may fall for a person at a wrong time! But as long as your heart feels your right! Love can’t ever mislead you! Love and spread love!

 

Why kites fly on Sankrant!?!

The first festival of the calendar year 2020 is here!!

So, here is a question that I asked my mumma and the answer to which amazed me!! On to the early morning walks, which were more of a reason to talk about life to Mom I asked her… Maa, why do we fly kites on this festival and what is the significance? Like we could have even thought of some other ways to celebrate the festival as we traditionally do! Either just making sweet, taking a bath early morning, going to a temple and then having sweet in the dish!!

And then, we just took a seat on the bench where the senior citizens had made their early morning news reporting spot, what she answered was like, it made me realize that our ancestors who had the concept of these festivals were actually genius. Their thought process was much far sighted then ours and sorted enough to have good reasons for everything!! They thought better than the best computerised planners in the generation where even simple machines were not a routine!

She continued saying as I was making myself comfortable on the bench!! Makar Sankranti marks the end of winter season and start of the spring season! The sun starts moving and the chilly mornings now change to warmer ones!! Winters are seasons where we usually have an unhealthy lifestyle, most of the times we tend getting up late because of cold floor that gets us goose bumps to walk upon and now that the festival marks end of the freezing mornings, flying kites not only gets the sky go colourful and kids cheerful it also gives us an good exposure to the morning sunlight which is rich source of Vitamin D making our bones stronger! (and I was like, now I get the reason as to why our brains are so much in demand!! Because we think way ahead and way smart!! Though the festival is not only celebrated in India!!) The next answer was why sesame sweets (til papdi) is that sesame seeds have a property which helps the body keeping warm and also provides enough oil to moisture the skin which has been dry due to the chills of winter!!

So, this Sankranti celebrate the festival knowing the reason behind every small thing you do!! And let your friends and kids know why and how of everything!!

Take Sweet and Talk Sweet – HAPPY SANKRANTI TO YOU AND YOUR LOVED ONES

Happy New Year 2K20!

 A gift-wrapped box having 12 months… more than 50 weeks and 365 new chances to make better mistakes!!

New year Resolutions! New year Goals! New year – this and new year that!! So many plans on day one and not to anyone’s surprise its hardly 5-6% that stays till the year end! A few might break tomorrow morning – because winter mornings are better in the cozy blanket then the gym!!

What are my new year plans!? Resolutions!? Goals!?

Its as complicated as simplest thing…

But then would love to share the foundation of my plans for myself this here! May be ones without any plans do get one – So 2020 is not only start of new year but also start of new decade!

What I have figured out after being on this planet earth for a more than 2 decades now and seeing the century change from 1900’s to 2000’s!!! (Oh wow! It sounds so matured – which of course is just a fake candid writing – if such term exists for writers!)

Give in your 100% in everything – not only happy things but also things which make you sad! (shocked – but then yeah that’s it!) When you laugh with all your muscles getting stretched and you rolling on the floor why can’t you cry out as loud as you throw out all the discontent!? Why is that only your pillow knows that you cry or the washroom tap hides your weeping sound! Enjoy crying as well! (I know new year – first day – and its so very depressing to speak about the tears stuff! But then come on we can face it right!?) I will be myself this year – I will make myself a better me! I don’t want perfection at first sight but I promise myself to make better mistakes and learn out of it! If I take up a task, I put in the best efforts to complete it in the best possible way I could do that!

 

And the next and last thing thought is – be the hope! Be human!! Feel for people and not for machines! Drop by drop fills a mighty ocean! And so is the race of humanity – let it start from small efforts and make world a better place to be in!

 

Rest – goals for the year are always high – be a better professional, exercise daily! Do this and do that! But then that’s on everyone’s list! This was somethings that I found unique on first page of my diary! Do share if you have something happening like this! You never know who gets inspired by you!!

 

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Amico!

Few stories just touch your life, few incidences make a home in your heart and never leave that place, a few moments just pass by and we don’t even realize! And the people behind these memories gradually become the MAINS in life – they become the permanent ones!

It was in grade 5 that these three girls met, gelled up and now were inseparable besties! From sharing their tiffin to sharing the first crushes they have even cried nights together on their first heart breaks! Both had a different mindset, a distinctive idea about life and life goals but still neither of the two took smallest decisions without each other! But then this blog happens to just describe one of two darlings – because it is her day today!

Samy, (my future wedding dress designer!!) a girl with a thousand dreams in her eyes, she holds a spark which can illuminate the lives of her loved ones and even burn out the one who thinks ill about her bestie (that’s me!). Our meet was destined at school – Stella Maris High School, where we gelled up as “good friends” with those lunch time talks and assignments. Later, this good friend bond was taken to a next level during the tuition classes. All this happened, when we chose walking with our bicycles then to riding them home so that we could steal some extra time and complete our talks about everything and anything, when we saved our pocket money to treat our choosy tongue with paani-puri, when we went for extra classes so that we could enjoy during the breaks. Life was fun then. It was only about school to home to tuitions to back home again. Never did we thought much about the economic depression of India neither did the ruling parties ever affect us! With farewell in school everyone was lost, people whom we knew for nearly 12 years were now just known strangers. A few stayed back for a year or so and they too were lost – but these girls are still with me. It’s about 18 years and we proudly celebrate every day as a friendship day! It isn’t that we meet up daily or we hangout every weekend. At times it happens that for months we don’t see each other, but the bond remains the same!

Samy, you have really been the best accident of my life! The best “jhagdalu-friend”, the best dumbo, the best melo-drama queen, the typical Punekar-foodie who is ever hungry, the tulsi baug to hong-kong lane wali “i-don’t-bargain” girl, my secret box, my gossip girl whose every call starts – Ae Aishe, tula mahiti ka kay zala, my designer, angry bird and the words might fall short to describe the versatility in this girls behaviour, rather in simple words her mood swings!

Samy, you indeed mean a lot to me (and even Cee). I know tu thoda irritating ahes! But it is okay, we are fine with it! Have a wonderful year ahead darling. Stay blessed and keep smiling because I have enough problems and always new mess to be solved by you!

HAPPIEST BIRTHDAY SAMY!!

Don’t Waste Food!

I love social events and so be it a simple birthday or huge fat wedding, be it a religious one or a normal get-together I will make sure to be present and shake hands with new people enhancing my network. Last Sunday, after the morning break fast at Mama’s place and whole day long cake workshop, the social bee in me took me to “Maheshwari Samaj’s Sankrant Milan (a small function where we had dance competitions, games for ladies followed by dinner).
I would just like to share a very beautiful incidence that happened – After all the performances everyone proceeded to the dinner counters. Every thing seemed normal till the time people started approaching the Used plates counter. It is quite usual that even if you don’t throw food in waste bin at your own homes, when one is in such social gatherings – we simply try tasting every item placed on the counter and throw the ones we did not like much. Same did happen that evening, people started trying on all items and when they were full, the rest of the items in plate were taken to the Used Plate counter to be washed off with the plates!
What was new in this – There were two men (Mr Krishna Saboo and Mr Bang) standing voluntarily near the USED PLATE Counter wearing a smile on their faces informing all those who arrived with food in their plates (which was to be thrown) to get empty plates or else they will eat the leftovers!! Amazing and Hats Off to the efforts taken for an attempt to avoid wastage of food! People had to eat all that they had taken in their plates and that day there was not a single bread which was wasted!
Thankful to the attempt taken by you people. It is truly a lesson of not wasting food, as well as an example of how things can be conveyed in a simple way without any show-off!

(Accept this blog as a token of gratitude on behalf of everyone!)

Mr Krishna Saboo and Mr Bang – a great job done!

Angarki Chaturthi!

This was a very innocent question I asked my Maa every single time from the time I started fasting on Chaturthi! – “Maa, why is it called Angarki Chaturthi and what is so special about it?” And she would reply when chaturthi falls on Tuesday it is Angarki!

Finally after nearly 7-8 years of Chaturthi I come to know the entire story of Angarki Chaturthi!

So Angarak literally means “red like burned coal”

So Angarak was son of Mother Earth and Rishi Bhardwaj who was great devotee of Lord Ganesha. Lord Ganesha was impressed by Anagarak’s devotion and he asked him to express a wish which Ganesha could accomplish!

Angarak promptly replied – that he wanted his name to be associated with Bappa forever, and there it goes Ganesha granted him a wish that every chaturthi that falls on Tuesday will be named as Angarki Chaturthi

So to all the Bappa fans – Happy Angarki!

(आणि पुणेकर असाल तर एकदा दगडूशेठ ला नक्की भेट द्या!!!!)

(Picture credits – Sachin Mane)

Merry Christmas!

It is that part of the year where I miss my school days! Being in an convent school where we had sisters, brothers, mothers, fathers and friends – it was a perfect family at school. Today after nearly 6 years that schooling is done I do miss that “Christmas play” , The Santa, that crib decoration competition, every year’s birth story of Baby Jesus! Oh My God those carols and jingles were boring at that time but now even when I accidentally hear one of them it makes me feel so blessed being part of Stella Maris High School!

And yeah! It would be most wonderful gift of Santa if we could have a get-together – a reunion of school friends in those school premises with all those teachers who once pulled our ears and made us what we are today!

Christmas – is thanksgiving was what one of my teacher said is school, saying thank you does not change the scenario but it does make the person feel special and recognized!

So this Christmas I heartily thank all those school mates, the teaching as well as non teaching staff and each and every person who made school life a wonderful memory for lifetime!!

 

Cycling

Cycling for a cause!

And the cause is fitness! Yes! Reason being a awareness (they are doctors by profession) – simply the ones who care for others health need to symbol of fitness and health to all their patients!

There started a journey of cycling – the only difference being it was not like we teenagers do – Every Sunday! It was a daily routine of cycling, be it a dark rainy morning or a chilly wintry dawn! It just cannot stop both these doctor friends from getting up and pedaling for health!

A simple route from Nagar road they pedal to Yerwada to Pune Station to their favorite early morning start at Dagdusheth Ganpati with a hot cup of tea and back to home! Well Sundays are special days and distance has no limits for both of them!

Getting up at 4:45 am where mornings be like ice too feels chilled is just an inspiration!

With all this dedication the duo completes 5000 kms today! To be specific some 5012 kms today! And I heartily congratulate them for keeping up the dedication to drive for fitness!

And it gives me immense pleasure and pride to reveal that one of the two super heroes is my DAD!

Proud of both of Jaiswal uncle and Papa! Keep up the young spirit going! It does give an inspiration to many of us!

Dr Jaiswal Uncle and Dad
Its morning 5:30 and the duo reaches to Dagdusheth Halwai everyday! 

Dear ICAI

CA Students!! A crowd of more than lakhs of students coming from various backgrounds – son of farmers, daughters of Rickshaw drivers, brothers of unmarried sisters and sisters to a crew of siblings which are dependant from her come to cities like Delhi, Mumbai, Pune with one single dream of being a Chartered Accountant!! Yes!! That one prefix with name “CA” is which these students struggle hard for years, be it with classes, repeated attempts or with articleship!!

खैरात मै तो हम CA Students ने आज तक कुछ नही मांगा! ना मांगेगे because we are proud students of only one of its kind institute of the country who does not entertain caste system! यहा जो भी clear करता है वो सिर्फ अपने दम पर है! ना किसी की दुआ ना किसी की मेहेरबानी! Its all because of the sleepless nights spent and the wee morning studies!

But today, we students request! Yes, we REQUEST! Dear ICAI!! Please amend 39(4)!

For those who aren’t aware of the said section and clause – as per 39(4) of The Chartered Accountants Regulations 1988 – The revaluation done will be within a month of the declaration of result for which a nominal fee will be charged by institute. The Fees shall be only for verifying whether the candidate’s answer in any particular paper or papers have been examined and marked and not for RE-EXAMINATION OF THE ANSWER!

Our request to OUR institute is only that we need an amendment in the said clause. And this is not something out of the world. Nearly every renowned university has such provisions of rechecking and re-evaluating. As very well explained by the eminent teachers of our field – I would like to highlight that IT IS OUT RIGHT!

इतना तो professionalism institute ने हमे सिखाया है, whatever we ask will never be something wrong or baseless! This is our sincere request to #dear ICAI amend section 39(4). Change is needed and I support change!