You are reflection of your surroundings!

You’re just an imitation of what is around you, its just that you don’t imitate one person; you take bits and pieces of hundred people and make yourself

I was small when my mum always had a concern of all the tiny heads which would flock in our house to play, laugh, complete homework and enjoy the best days of life. It wasn’t the mess we created in and around that dreaded her, it was the children coming home, their upbringing and their culture in which they were brought which was her concern! She was very keen on choosing the right people as friends and I always had a grudge as to its okay whosoever they are! I just play with them and will not be influenced with any of their habits! But then entering the house without a brief introduction of my friends was next to impossible!

Now when I started analysing things myself and knowing the psychology behind her worried eyes, I totally agree to her! You are known by the company you keep! Not because it’s a saying! But because your brain constantly snaps images of the attitudes – be it good or bad of all the people you surround with. These small snaps taken slowly and steadily start throwing impression on our personality! And to be checked out in practise – take an example if your boss is in a grumpy mood and you happen to be the target point as soon as you have taken your seat early morning. You are thrashed and abused in hard words in front of a few colleagues, later you take the same grumpy vibes to the cafeteria which is simply carried ahead to your kids waiting back home. So, you see, you gradually become the way you receive vibes! You read a positive quote and you are all filled with motivation. Atleast for the next few days you work with a new energy and focus!

So, it’s simple – I vibe, your vibe… WE VIBE. Be surrounded with positive people, the optimistic ones, those which send you a positive energy! Those who allow you to be a little better than your best version

Commitment!

Incredible things happen when you commit

Commitment – a high voltage word! Your partner asks you a commitment in your relationship, you boss asks you the same for your job, you team asks for it on the field and so on and on.

But have you wondered what of you fall short in what you actually commit – you lose… you simply lose your respect, your value your position; but then is it easy to commit!? No, not all rather! Had it been easy to commit why would the repercussions be so hard.

When you say you commit a thing – you mean that you are ready to devote your entire energy on that stuff! You mean that you will stand up 101st time even if you fall a hundred times! So, there falls your answer – Why incredible things happen when you commit yourself to it! It happens because you dedicate the best phase of you to the task not just to complete it, but to complete it in a way which shocks your own self. You commit when you desire to watch things beyond perfection.

Plan your plans

“Always be careful of where you run to. When the going gets tough, take it easy and slow down, else you venture into the den of lions.” Just wait and take time to observe what the nature has to tell you. Everything need not be perfectly as per your plan everytime but yeah you cannot blindly step into things without plan at any time!!! Before taking a giant leap just stop to notice that what and how the small steps taken will help you to stand out better and brighter. Take every step cautiously be it in terms of academics, social, personal or any other genre.

“Don’t ever step in the market unprepared and unplanned

Make it a point to give your best shot, with proper plan and preparations

You might be slow to reach your goal, but definitely you will stay there longer and stronger”

 

Let things happen!

Do you expect in life? At times from your partner, from your colleague, from a friend, from your parents, from your siblings or anyone whom you meet or at times even from the people whom you will be meeting and after all such expectations you unknowingly even start creating a picture of how you want things to happen! Does that happen? Of course, it does happen, because that is the normal human tendency to start creating thoughts of how one wants a meeting to happen, a deal to take place or a (for girls specially) how a surprise date must look like!! And it is yet again the same human tendency, which starts criticizing even at the best of the provisions made or best of arrangements done just because it did not match with the visualization of what one had in mind!!

These are the problems, and you might be like, Esha can we get a solution to this recognized problem of our brains!! So yes!! There is a simple way to get yourself out of the small talks and back biting which probably takes a toll on your health! STOP EXPECTING! Easier said than done! But yeah, one needs to control the mind which becomes a little extra creative when it goes on to expectation mode!

What Screws up in life is the picture in our heads of the way we visualized a thing to happen

Stalkers

Stalkers! Yeah a breed of evil which by mistake were placed as humans! The simple reason being that I am being so hard in words is that these ****** dont even realize that they just spoil a person’s life! Had it been that you got guts, come in front, stand face to face and talk why play hied and seek and make one feel so uncomfortable! How can you be humans when you can’t even respect someone else’s life! Whatever!

Are you stalked by someone ever?? Where you could actually feel your heart throbbing so hard as if it will jump out of your body breaking through all boundaries or simply legs shivering as if you were on vibrating mode or sweating in the AC room! And in the extremes where you feel like ending yourself was the only option!

Well, than this one is for you! So what will you do in such case, first thing just let people around you know about it, may be your friend, a colleague or whomever you are comfortable with!

Next, be bold enough to approach the authorities. Specially for the girls, feminism is not a synonym to weakness! Get up, speak up, voice your own issues because you cant expect your father/brother/boyfriend/male best friend or husband to be there all the time! Of course they are your strength but be ready to face it alone as well!

Few other things, dont let it bother your peace, because that is what the stalker wants, to scare the shit out of you! So just have your routine, update your friends with your daily schedule! And live the life your way!

Ignore! Learn to ignore what is not in your concern!

And lastly! For the ones who take hard and heavy decisions of quitting their regular lifestyle, keep themselves indoor, stop being social and all that stuff (with extremes as said before) People come and go! You get a life only once! Enjoy that gift thoroughly!!

Friends! Live and let live! Let your presence be reason to smiles and happiness and not tears and pain for others!!!

Smile and spread smiles! Happy Morning!

Bappa Morya….!!!

One of the most awaited festival of entire Maharashtra – Ganesh Chaturthi!!!

Where Lord Ganesha is welcomed with great respect, joy and love to everyone’s home!! Staying with us for 10 days, he makes the atmosphere vibrate in energy – all to a different level!!

If Mumbai is known for the huge idols touching the sky from where the almighty showers his lovely blessings!!! We Punekars – rather proud Punekar welcome Bappa in grandeur of the traditional Dhol-Tasha, lezim the colorful rangolis and even the air sings along with us – Ganpati Bappa Morya Mangal Murthi Morya!!!

Today let us just get briefed that why and how is Ganesh Chaturthi Celebrated?

The first section of the Mahabharata states that it was Ganesha who wrote down the text to Vyasa’s dictation. Ganesha is said to have agreed to write it only if Vyasa never paused in his recitation. Vyasa agrees on condition that Ganesha takes the time to understand what was said before writing it down.

So, Ganesha began to write Mahabharata along with Ved Vyasa. They wrote Mahabharata in 10 days without taking a pause. They didn’t eat/drink anything during these 10 days. Due to this, Ganesha was dehydrated.

So, a layer of clay(mitti) was applied all over his body. Then he was asked to get in river and cool down.(Something similar to Ganesh Visarjan)

And this is why we celebrate Ganesh Chaturthi and immerse Ganeshji in water.

How is it celebrated?

Lord Ganesha – believed to be the remover of obstacles (Vighnaharta), and the god of intellect and wisdom (Buddhi Devta).

Worshipped by nearly all castes and all around the globe – Japan, Sri Lanka, Bangladesh etc. Ganesha being everyone’s favorite be it the Bollywood celebrities or the common Man – I am sure everyone in our childhood must have gone crazy for the way the decorations will be done, who will get Bappa home, who will be the one performing the first aarti etc. The grand celebration starts with the installation of Ganesh idols in colorfully decorated temporary made structures – one which is made at our homes – where creativity just flows at peak – Bappa sitting on mountain type structure, at times on bed of flowers etc.  Followed by the rituals – Pranapratishhtha – the process of infusing the deity into a murti or idol, Shhodashopachara – 16 forms of paying tribute to Ganesha,

At the time of the ritual coconut, jaggery, modaks, durva i.e. blades of grass and hibiscus flowers (His favorite flowers was what mom always told me from childhood) are offered and throughout the ceremonial occasion several hymns echoes down the mind of devotees bringing in a divine peace.

During the 10 days – if in case you have ever been part of the competitions that are held in societies, you will surely recall all those fancy dress where one becomes doctor, the other Bhaji wali and its all fun and enjoyment. 10 days just fly off in the air of happiness!!

On the last day, immersion of the statues in the ocean, or other bodies of water, and their subsequent destruction serves as a reminder of this belief. (These are traditionally known as Uttarpuja – Puja after which the idol could be shifted after it’s infusion, Ganpati Visarjan – immersion of the Idol in the river.)

 

Lastly. I would like to make an appeal – the tradition of immersing Bappa in river bodies was not a harm as the idols made then were of clay, mud and colurs were all natural and hence were no harm to the water animals! But in todays times the idols are all made of non-degradable material which harms the water diversity and endangers their living. Start a change from yourself immerse your “Ladka Bappa” in the artificial pools created by the local authorities.

(I am really proud that even though I was brought up in a traditional family where traditions are strictly followed as they were, on understanding the need to change our thoughts, we have been practicing Ganesh Visarjan in a self-made water tank sort of structure from past 3 years and will be continuing the same.)

Are You Emotionally Stable?

Stability – we run for financial stability, we run for stable house, stable family life…stable this stable that!!! But what about emotional stability, do we ever concentrate on that, rather do we even take a pause to think about that???

What is emotional Stability?

It simply means that you are synchronizing your thoughts with your actions in such a way that they contribute to the betterment of your soul!!! It means developing such lifestyle where there is harmony in what you do and what you speak!

How can you be emotionally stable?

  1. Learn to speak what you think?

It is better to speak right in front then to sit and back bite! Back biting helps no one, not the person about whom you speak neither one self nor the ones to whom you recite the entire conversation. Say for example – There is a person at your workplace whom you are not comfortable with but somehow you cannot express that to the respective person, you sit and blab ill things about that person during your lunch time outcome of which is you spread negativity everywhere, harming your own mental health!

  1. Either change the things you cannot accept or accept the things you cannot change:

There are only two options either you accepting the situation or you changing the situation, when you try sticking in middle is the time when you create pain for your own self! You get disturbed and spread the same vibrations of imbalance everywhere you go!

  1. Be choosy!

By saying be choosy, I mean to say evaluate all your choices in every possible way! Be selective in the friend circle you sit, the attire you wear, the places you visit, the words you use each and every small thing counts when it comes to sum up things about you as a person! Learn to choose things you want to do and things you want to avoid.

  1. Say no to negativity!

Keep yourself surrounded with positive people who have big dreams and are ambitious. Keep yourself into positive actions. In case situations do not allow you to have a positive outlook, try being neutral. Stop cribbing and start acting to solve problems. Things happen the way you think about them. If you have positive attitude of completing a task it will be done and vice-a-versa.

  1. Master your emotions

Cry when you feel like crying, not when people make you cry. It depends upon you when to react and how much to react. Not everything needs to be responded, few things can be ignored right away!

If you achieve success here, then no hurdles are too high for you. A healthy mind generates more output then a clever brain!

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It isn’t the stress that makes us fall, It is the way to respond to that stress that makes us fall!! and that is when emotional Stability comes into light!!!

 

Smile and Spread smiles!!!