It is Valentine’s day!

Did you confess your love to the one you just stared at through the lectures? Did you approach the one whom you have secretly been admiring since weeks and months? Did you express yourself to the one whose one glimpse makes you feel chills in the spine?

Today I would rather like to share my view on the same topic – Expressing love and gratitude!

Guys, do you realize that having a crush is rather easy then collecting the guts to go and express things! It is really a tedious task (of course if you mean your feelings for a lifetime which a rare scenario in today’s time) to confess your feelings to someone whom you look forward to spend a life with. It is like you need to pour the entire pot of feelings in a tiny bottle. Is this article something like – “5 ways to express your love” or “Tips to successful proposal”? Naah, not at all. The next few paragraphs will just tell you how important it is to express yourself, not only that first ever time in life! But that every single time when it is possible to show your care and concern in any relationship.

No one can read other person’s mind each and every time, so don’t be unrealistic to assume things that the person will realize things in an implicit manner and that there’s no need to be expressive in nature! You may love a person very dearly but let your words and your actions mean the same. Let your presence make the person feel a sense of security and warmth.

Expressing for one time doesn’t mean it has an life time effect. You need to be there in times of need, you need to reach out to the person adjusting your problems, you need to be understanding and supportive if you really mean when you say someone is your FOREVER.

Falling in love with a face is easiest job, falling for a soul is something like time taking

Expressing your love is an easy affair, but meaning it for a lifetime is more of hard efforts

And equally important – signing the Archies cards as “my forever and always” is as simple as scribbling ABCD of rough paper but meaning that always and forever is like painting the canvas colorful without colors!

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Dad and daughters (1)

This is may be a voice of every small girl to her dad (Indian middle-class family who has his job from morning 8 to say something 6 in the evening)
Papa, today I had a holiday and was waiting for this day from past one week, so that I could tell you my school stories, so that I could make your hair like Justin Bieber, so that I could tie two ponies and put my favourite nail colour on your nails!! I was planning about the day with you so that I could create some memories in my childhood.
Baba, you know I do miss you a lot, When I get up you are already on your way to office, running with your tiffin and you just come back after reaching the door to kiss me a good day to school. Starting the day with your beautiful smile I get ready for my school, dreaming of a day that one day atleast your office goes on strike so that you could leave me to school, so that we could have so many talks and I could tell you how bitterly I miss your hugs and how badly I need you! Back then, when you come home, I am at my dance classes and by the time I come home you are either hooked in to some important presentation for the next day or planning about the monthly budget or may be simply chalking out the expenses of house!! Without disturbing you I just observe you or probably sometimes come and help you with my so called extra fast mathematics additions which you give me so that I don’t start with my chatter box 😉😉!!
The time being so bad it just flies off when you are at home!!
So today, I have decided that the day is ours! I will tell you all the fairy tales I watch on Disney, today I will teach you how to write and how to draw, you know I even learnt to paint a little, Papa, we will also go shopping , I wanna get a new pair of socks for you because yesterday I did notice you hiding your leg behind the chair because of the torn patch on the socks! I wanna show you all the stars I got for neat writing, I wanna spend a morning with you watching the sun touch the sky, I wanna walk a mile with you and see the sun setting, I wanna show you the moon plays hide and seek with me through my bedroom window!
Papa, I was really happy today, because I had a holiday and was gonna spend the entire day at home till the time your phone rang and you had an emergency meeting scheduled in an hour!
I was upset! I was about to cry and the minute you said I have promised the day with my princess, let the meeting be postponed I just ran and hugged you! I had my world with me! I had the most amazing memory of my childhood crafted today!!

(To all the dearest fathers!!! Spend more and more time with your daughters, because tomorrow when you might have time your daughter might have been wedded off!! And you spend hours with all the childhood photos where you were missing due to some important meeting, a business tour or some other upcoming project!!)

Luckiest daughters ever!!!! Papa love you alot

MeToo

Me Too movement – voice against sexual harassment and sexual assault. Spreading like forest fire in India it started a year before in west. The sirens of this movement have now become unstoppable and rather loud then before. Moving from the glamour industry, women from every industry are voicing against injustice which has ever happened in the past not only to them but are joining hands to support the ill that ever took place in their presence.

My personal opinion on this movement is that lets not pollute the prime moto of this movement that was started to get justice to the victims which due to some reason could not be given then and there when it took place. As a girl, I respect the feelings of every lady who had to compromise with the most valuable asset of life – HER DIGNITY!! But let us not take an undue advantage and simply start pin pointing every person of past (with whom may be today we are not in good terms with) with whom we actually spent the time in happy mood with a cheerful face and name the beautiful memories as “Sexual Assault” Because the same will make the entire foundation of this movement so useless and baseless. Let the movement serve its original mission and not the revenge of past.

Let us not take the MeToo Movement as a FASHION or trap to attract sympathy. Of course, every girl who has faced a bad past should stand up so that the history doesn’t repeat itself!! But then, be very clear before you post something and give a new feed on your social sites to hungry media who always starves for a news! Be clear to few questions like “Are you strong enough to fight the battle?” “Can you support your fight with reasonable evidences?”, “Will you take this struggle till the last minute and get justice for yourself?”, “Is the post only for following the hashtags or gathering some extra pampering from the public or is it for some literal meaning where you are protesting and have the guts to face the-come-what-may situation to see the unjust being punished?”

The only concern is Fighting rightly for a wrong and unjust situation is surely accepted but fighting against the right just for publicity or any such wrong reason is absolutely not “THE STRONG GIRL’S THING”

Girls out there, you are the power, you are the trend setter, you have that in you which even makes the strongest powers bow infront of you. You are the symbol of strength and the light in darkness. If you decide you can create miracles all around. Don’t portray a weaker picture of yours infront of the society, have the strength to stand not only for your ownself but also for the one whom you have seen suffering!

Sister like brother!

Something off the track was on my mind today!! Somehow I just couldn’t figure out what was going back there in that mystery box of my head which was making me feel so very uneasy! And there went a light straight throwing my attention that its time to take my pen and write down something!! To boost my creativity and to get lost in the world of words!!!

But the next thought was on what should I write! And next bulb that glows up is “Rakhi” Yeah! Raksha Bandhan one of the super favorite festival of siblings who fight all day long… who scream out like hell on each other even if a useless gets misplaced, who will snatch each others ice cream, who will leak out secrets and yet again have a privilege to be each others secret box!! A festival to celebrate the bond of Brother-Sister relationship!!

Its weird right, the sister with whom that mischievous brother would have all sorts of fights and arguments is the one who cries the most the day she gets wedded off! Well for sisters too, goes the same story, a scratch on her brother’s knee and she will create an entire havoc out there with all huge tears and extra care and pampering!!

For me, Raksha Bandhan never had an special attraction (being two sisters). But as and when we grew up it did catch my eye! The time my younger sis comes and ties Rakhi and asks me what I have got for her on Raksha Bandhan are all part of the beautiful school memories!!

Being brought up, not less than a son, we were as such never depended on anyone for fulfilling our wishes or for protecting us! Rather what highlights now is, my darling siso can actually screw up anyone for even pinpointing at me, not less then that typical brother who has got so much of possessiveness and love!

So this one is for all those sisters who have been like brothers! Protecting your siblings from slightest of the hardships! and of Course specially for my Darling – Samu

You indeed inspire me to the fullest! From the early morning fights of why you wore my shirt!?” to the night time “Are you gonna help me with pulling my blanket or should I sleep without it” you just are a package of energy which makes me myself!

Even after long fights where we actually sit with our backs across, the minute I need you even with that cranky tone you will be the first one to lend your helping hand! Be it a bad day or that one smile which you extra had, it has to first be “gossiped” in and out in us…. Be it Mom calling or be it friends when its each others secret that are about to unveil we both can actually forget the world!

My dearest darling babie – You might not know this, but then yeah without your presence the house actually swallows me raw! You being the neatest person in our room of two and being the one who loves things kept in place and I being the opposite our childhood just grew….and school bags turned to college sacks and laptop bags!!

Things which still remain same are every morning we still get up with bucket of complaints and every night we still sleep with “you know what happened today” stories!!

Thank you Maa-Papa…for gifting me a lifetime “cartoon”, photogenic artist, a beauty with lots of brains, my late night chat box, my first time recipe taster, my best critics, my dancer, my makeup artist, my gossip queen…. And the list can go on….!!!

Get up and work!!!

It was a failure….!!! A bad failure again and she was left broken…. Shattered down in pieces… Complete depression as to what next… Because the result of course mattered a lot… And was like a gate pass to her dreams… CA!!! And multiple attempts were hand in hand… Was what she knew… But then not again was what her every drop of sweat she shed studying day in and out was screaming!!! But then that was it… The results were out and it was “FAIL
She did start doubting herself and abilities now… Can I do this? Will it be possible? Were the 1000 questions crowding in her mind… Hitting nails on her future plans, the pain of which could be seen flowing through her eyes!! In entire darkness, there comes a fairy… A fairy friend… “Figgy” and the time she wasn’t able to trust herself, this beautiful fairy says… Get up girl, you can do it.. Not because of any other reasons other then the fact – YOU HAVE TO DO IT!!! You chose the dream… You chose the path knowing that it was tough… Because you knew you could do it, because you knew you are that capable… Not everyone comes here, if you dared to step into this…. Just go and complete it… Just go and give it your best…

That fairy didn’t speak a word of sympathy… She didn’t say that “may be hard luck this time… ” All she said was… Girl, get up and put in efforts, somewhere somehow your dedication was 99% and failure was because you lacked 1% to give in your 100%!!! So don’t shed those tears… Perspire and rise up…

That fairy didn’t wipe her tears… All she said was “tears symbolize that you accept you fell short of efforts… So go and give in again… ”

That fairy didn’t even ask her to take a break for all her depression, she just said… Life played on you… Now its your turn to play back… You were thrown right on your face…
(where accept parents no one stood back with you) so now you have to throw back and prove… You are not a FAILURE. Its matter of your hardwork… Consistent hardwork… Your sacrifices…

You feel insecure about friends leaving you if you are not in contact, then remember people who leave are not permanent and people who are permanent never leave…

You feel insecure about your love cheating, then that’s not love because love binds hearts forever… And it promotes each others dream!!!

Right now… All you need is your career… Your attempt…your goal… Cz may be you will get out of depression in a day or two… But there your dad is still struggling hard to see his daughter’s failure… He still silently cries late nights and prays for your success… There your Mom still quietly adds that extra almond in your breakfast saying this will help you in good memory and you will write your papers well next time…

They both just wanna see you successful, Girl!!!!
Saying this… the fairy sums it up as “Start studying and stop pretending” FOCUS and the next result should be exactly what you want!!!
PASS

The Girl was lucky enough to get that fairy in her life… And boost her confidence!!!

Guys this one is for you…. A fairy for u…. If this was a attempt where you gave efforts and still had to accept a failure… Accept your mistakes and give it another try… Sit with your books… Avoid social media… Learn write read use any technique suitable for you… Just go and give the attempt, but this time like a warrior… You are wounded with an failure and in hindi it is said “Ghayal sher jyada khatarnak hota h” Go and give your 100% the result is waiting…. The prefix of CA to your name will be your reward!!!

Just give in your 100%, not a little less nor a little more!!!

(dedicated to a friend who’s been source of motivation to me… My Fairy…. Love u Figgy… Thank you… And I swear this time it will be PASS)

Being traditional!!

I would rather prefer being like a understanding wife…. Then a demanding girlfriend!!!

I would love to get a rose then an expensive date!!!

I would love the lakeside view then the five star ambience

I would enjoy a two wheeler ride where I just hug my world (that’s you) then that comfy ride in a Merc!!!

I would like you going on knees and proposing me then a heavy hefty party announcement!!!

I would love to be the girl who you choose to see escaping from the eyes of world then the one whom you would love to show off in a party!!!

I would love to sit for hours and make cards then to simply pick up a bottle of perfume and a Archies card!!!

I would prefer your name in mehendi then on a tattoo

Its a list…

I would love to go back to our old traditions and follow them religiously and be typical…. Then the hottie babe whom the world watches out…

I would love to just attract your eyes every single time you watch out to me!!!

(of course except a few bad ones… 😉😉😉😉😉)

Its beautiful to be classic in trendy world!!!!

#smile and spread smiles

Lost Kids

Have kids of today lost the innocence?? A question discussed by group of doctors in their monthly meet made me think a lot!!! My point of view for this question was bit clumpsy and ambiguous, what I feel is kids of today probably born after 2006 or say 2007, haven’t lost their innocence but have matured way earlier. They have become more aggressive, violent, impatient etc. I am not taking out negative aspects but these are few qualities randomly found in the upcoming generation (though I don’t fall in an elderly generation but lucky to be kid of 90’s).

Reasons for losing their innocence and maturing earlier is probably extra information…extra exposure to knowledge!! You might be like, Hey Aisha, how can knowledge be harmful?? But to face the fact excess of anything can be harmful, everything in life has its appropriate timing and if and only if this principle is followed then things fall rightly in right place.

So what is going wrong nowadays??

The excess use of “Smart Technology” to make the generation smarter!!! Let kids enjoy their childhood, let them collect memories of falling on sand, crying for chocolates, secretly planning against elder brother/sister, playing in mud, littering the house with craft papers then simply giving them a phone or tablet and downloading games. The games played in open air will teach them practical situations. No doubt there might be some benefits of this newly trending “Smart Technology” but it for sure has more drawbacks!!!

Getting back to why I had an clumsy answer to the newly arising question was – Though kids are getting hampered the reason for their untimely maturity is the ones who say we care for our children more then our ownselves “the parents”. Accept it or not, this is a fact that no child was born with an tablet or phone or laptops, this was all taught by parents, sometimes in excitement and sometimes just to make the child busy in some other thing because parents have got some office work or and household get together.

Its time for parents to realize that rather then making extra talented robots for future we need a little extra humanity in humans. We need to teach, the future of tomorrow is not just technology and progress, its something that makes you feel satisfied.

Well the topic can be extended as long as possible!! But can I get your views on this topic as vast as ocean??

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