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Stalkers

Stalkers! Yeah a breed of evil which by mistake were placed as humans! The simple reason being that I am being so hard in words is that these ****** dont even realize that they just spoil a person’s life! Had it been that you got guts, come in front, stand face to face and talk why play hied and seek and make one feel so uncomfortable! How can you be humans when you can’t even respect someone else’s life! Whatever!

Are you stalked by someone ever?? Where you could actually feel your heart throbbing so hard as if it will jump out of your body breaking through all boundaries or simply legs shivering as if you were on vibrating mode or sweating in the AC room! And in the extremes where you feel like ending yourself was the only option!

Well, than this one is for you! So what will you do in such case, first thing just let people around you know about it, may be your friend, a colleague or whomever you are comfortable with!

Next, be bold enough to approach the authorities. Specially for the girls, feminism is not a synonym to weakness! Get up, speak up, voice your own issues because you cant expect your father/brother/boyfriend/male best friend or husband to be there all the time! Of course they are your strength but be ready to face it alone as well!

Few other things, dont let it bother your peace, because that is what the stalker wants, to scare the shit out of you! So just have your routine, update your friends with your daily schedule! And live the life your way!

Ignore! Learn to ignore what is not in your concern!

And lastly! For the ones who take hard and heavy decisions of quitting their regular lifestyle, keep themselves indoor, stop being social and all that stuff (with extremes as said before) People come and go! You get a life only once! Enjoy that gift thoroughly!!

Friends! Live and let live! Let your presence be reason to smiles and happiness and not tears and pain for others!!!

Smile and spread smiles! Happy Morning!

Bewafaa

अरसो बाद आज कलम उठायी थी
जुटाकर कुछ ल्फझ लिखी अपनी कहानी थी
तेरी उस सफाई से की बेवाफाई को शब्दो मै उतारणा चाहा हमने
तब अल्फाझों ने भी हार मान ली हमारे इस टुटे दिल से
कहा उन अल्फाझों ने इस टुटे टुकडे से
रोकर तो वक्त बीत जाएगा
अश्को से बस्स दामन भिग जाएगा
पर इस घायल भरोसे को मरहम अब कोन लगाएगा
सिमटकर अपने आसू जवाब मै उस दिल ने बस इतना कहा
कि आज भी रुखा हूं की कही वो आ जाये
आकर हमे अपने साथ ले जाये

क्योकी
जितनी सफाइ से तुने बेवफाई की थी
उतनी ही शिद्दत से मोहब्बत हमने भी तो की थी

Oops!! Normally abnormal

I would like to open the blog with an question which you may answer at the end!
“Is this normal!? ”
It was “his” message, I will be there within an hour and it was topsy turvy situation for me!!

I mean…. That dried throat…those butterflies in my tummy… the clock where minutes seemed to be ticking slow… the world seemed to be more colorful
The blue colur box which has few colurs spill on its outside out of nowhere seemed to be something so very filmy… Like the blue sky with colurful rainbow on it!!

I was fine just few minutes before reading a novel and sipping my coffee… All of sudden after that blink on my phone it feels like the breeze is touching my cheeks and making me feel more in love… The chirping birds are singing love songs… And the setting sun is painting the sky just for us!!

And a little later… I looked at myself in mirror with idiotic thoughts like…. OMG!!! Is this something like multiple personality disorder or is the heart that is pumping like the basket ball tribles once it is bounced showing signs of some cardiac arrest?!? The eyes visualizing him in every corner of my room was shouting about my madness and gush of thousands of pretty smilez on my face!

I was standing in the window which I hardly even look at… More then 10 glimpses down the lane searching a familiar face and ears all alert to hear his bike honk out loud!! (whereas honking normally irritates me to its peak)
A girl who normally has messy hair and clumsy attire is my description for own self (and I don’t have any arguements on the same😉😉)… Just took a look saying… Is my skin too oily… Am I too stout… This shirt is fine, right!? And what not… But then next minute I setlled down with my empty coffee mug like… Oh… Any ways he loves me in my pimple face or that complete make up wala face… So rest again!!!

It was 7th time on the lazy Saturday evening that I took tons of efforts to go downstairs and see whether he has come!! And nearly every second minute my poor cell phone was disturbed to check out whether he has come!

I was confused….

WHAT IS THIS???

And just typing this all in my words on my laptop… As my fingers moved on keyboard, there comes a hand guiding my fingers to end the blog as
“THIS IS LOVE – a heart to heart connection of one soul to the other”
Standing right behind me… There he had come with my favorite choclates peeping out of his pocket!!!

(And Wow!!! What a beautiful way to end the blog was he writing the closing line)

Bappa Morya….!!!

One of the most awaited festival of entire Maharashtra – Ganesh Chaturthi!!!

Where Lord Ganesha is welcomed with great respect, joy and love to everyone’s home!! Staying with us for 10 days, he makes the atmosphere vibrate in energy – all to a different level!!

If Mumbai is known for the huge idols touching the sky from where the almighty showers his lovely blessings!!! We Punekars – rather proud Punekar welcome Bappa in grandeur of the traditional Dhol-Tasha, lezim the colorful rangolis and even the air sings along with us – Ganpati Bappa Morya Mangal Murthi Morya!!!

Today let us just get briefed that why and how is Ganesh Chaturthi Celebrated?

The first section of the Mahabharata states that it was Ganesha who wrote down the text to Vyasa’s dictation. Ganesha is said to have agreed to write it only if Vyasa never paused in his recitation. Vyasa agrees on condition that Ganesha takes the time to understand what was said before writing it down.

So, Ganesha began to write Mahabharata along with Ved Vyasa. They wrote Mahabharata in 10 days without taking a pause. They didn’t eat/drink anything during these 10 days. Due to this, Ganesha was dehydrated.

So, a layer of clay(mitti) was applied all over his body. Then he was asked to get in river and cool down.(Something similar to Ganesh Visarjan)

And this is why we celebrate Ganesh Chaturthi and immerse Ganeshji in water.

How is it celebrated?

Lord Ganesha – believed to be the remover of obstacles (Vighnaharta), and the god of intellect and wisdom (Buddhi Devta).

Worshipped by nearly all castes and all around the globe – Japan, Sri Lanka, Bangladesh etc. Ganesha being everyone’s favorite be it the Bollywood celebrities or the common Man – I am sure everyone in our childhood must have gone crazy for the way the decorations will be done, who will get Bappa home, who will be the one performing the first aarti etc. The grand celebration starts with the installation of Ganesh idols in colorfully decorated temporary made structures – one which is made at our homes – where creativity just flows at peak – Bappa sitting on mountain type structure, at times on bed of flowers etc.  Followed by the rituals – Pranapratishhtha – the process of infusing the deity into a murti or idol, Shhodashopachara – 16 forms of paying tribute to Ganesha,

At the time of the ritual coconut, jaggery, modaks, durva i.e. blades of grass and hibiscus flowers (His favorite flowers was what mom always told me from childhood) are offered and throughout the ceremonial occasion several hymns echoes down the mind of devotees bringing in a divine peace.

During the 10 days – if in case you have ever been part of the competitions that are held in societies, you will surely recall all those fancy dress where one becomes doctor, the other Bhaji wali and its all fun and enjoyment. 10 days just fly off in the air of happiness!!

On the last day, immersion of the statues in the ocean, or other bodies of water, and their subsequent destruction serves as a reminder of this belief. (These are traditionally known as Uttarpuja – Puja after which the idol could be shifted after it’s infusion, Ganpati Visarjan – immersion of the Idol in the river.)

 

Lastly. I would like to make an appeal – the tradition of immersing Bappa in river bodies was not a harm as the idols made then were of clay, mud and colurs were all natural and hence were no harm to the water animals! But in todays times the idols are all made of non-degradable material which harms the water diversity and endangers their living. Start a change from yourself immerse your “Ladka Bappa” in the artificial pools created by the local authorities.

(I am really proud that even though I was brought up in a traditional family where traditions are strictly followed as they were, on understanding the need to change our thoughts, we have been practicing Ganesh Visarjan in a self-made water tank sort of structure from past 3 years and will be continuing the same.)

Dyankala!

The ones who are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones who actually do that!!

In today’s run of life….where each of us just wanna learn, earn, save, invest, expand and still stop not, I was lucky enough to come across a unique foundation – Dyankala Sanvardhini Sanstha!

If I had to describe it in few lines, it would be like – Found by the women, for the women (rather girls and boys!!)  and of the women!! Here from the helpers to the founders all were the ones, whom the society often points as – Bicharri akeli naari or something like “girls cannot move milestones all alone, they need men”….

Dyankala Sanstha – basically a school for the children who do not have a very strong financial back ground to spend that handsome amount and get enrolled in hi-tech schools!!! Found by few ladies who had a constant burning desire to educate the society – WITHOUT ANY SORT OF GRANT!!! These ladies along with managing their family responsibilities took up this noble task and continued even at the hardest times. Investing hard earned money in charity is actually something HUGE!!  And they made this huge seem so simple to the world.

Working with same enthusiasm and energy was something which was and is still worth watching! The way these young old ladies come and plan for students, the way they run like school girls through the stairs, that spark to serve the society is just amazing!!!

Along with my principal (Sir) I visited the premises for a meeting regarding audit which was just done, as soon as we entered, Kolatkar Maam with her white hair, neatly tucked saree welcomed us with that  bright smile saying “Welcome, this is like my second home, I enjoy being here and working for them. Entering  the meeting room, we sat around with all ladies, and there enters a old lady in her 80’s who needed no support, loud in voice, and full of confidence!!

Radha Maam, Kogekar Maam, Shilpa Maam, Kusum Maam, the teachers, the co-staff everyone was working for the betterment of society. They devoted their time, money and energy to the foundation. Post meeting they had a discussion, in which one of them expressed that somehow she could manage to collect a donation of Rs 5000/-, and the way everyone rejoiced was like they actually were benefited personally. And looking at this, I actually felt like in some small way I would love to be a help, and extended saying, Maam In case I can be of any help other then the audits and financial statements, let me know I would feel lucky to donate something!!!

The foundation and its members actually made me believe that “Service to man is service to God”

On a sincere note, using this platform I would like to spread the message – If you cannot donate money, its fine, you have much more than that to donate and make world a better place to live – Donate your time in betterment of society, be a part of such foundations! You need not donate huge amounts, be it your birthday cake which you were gonna  waste throwing on each other’s face can be someone’s source of books for entire year!

Think and create a change!!! It will be worth a living!!

Are You Emotionally Stable?

Stability – we run for financial stability, we run for stable house, stable family life…stable this stable that!!! But what about emotional stability, do we ever concentrate on that, rather do we even take a pause to think about that???

What is emotional Stability?

It simply means that you are synchronizing your thoughts with your actions in such a way that they contribute to the betterment of your soul!!! It means developing such lifestyle where there is harmony in what you do and what you speak!

How can you be emotionally stable?

  1. Learn to speak what you think?

It is better to speak right in front then to sit and back bite! Back biting helps no one, not the person about whom you speak neither one self nor the ones to whom you recite the entire conversation. Say for example – There is a person at your workplace whom you are not comfortable with but somehow you cannot express that to the respective person, you sit and blab ill things about that person during your lunch time outcome of which is you spread negativity everywhere, harming your own mental health!

  1. Either change the things you cannot accept or accept the things you cannot change:

There are only two options either you accepting the situation or you changing the situation, when you try sticking in middle is the time when you create pain for your own self! You get disturbed and spread the same vibrations of imbalance everywhere you go!

  1. Be choosy!

By saying be choosy, I mean to say evaluate all your choices in every possible way! Be selective in the friend circle you sit, the attire you wear, the places you visit, the words you use each and every small thing counts when it comes to sum up things about you as a person! Learn to choose things you want to do and things you want to avoid.

  1. Say no to negativity!

Keep yourself surrounded with positive people who have big dreams and are ambitious. Keep yourself into positive actions. In case situations do not allow you to have a positive outlook, try being neutral. Stop cribbing and start acting to solve problems. Things happen the way you think about them. If you have positive attitude of completing a task it will be done and vice-a-versa.

  1. Master your emotions

Cry when you feel like crying, not when people make you cry. It depends upon you when to react and how much to react. Not everything needs to be responded, few things can be ignored right away!

If you achieve success here, then no hurdles are too high for you. A healthy mind generates more output then a clever brain!

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It isn’t the stress that makes us fall, It is the way to respond to that stress that makes us fall!! and that is when emotional Stability comes into light!!!

 

Smile and Spread smiles!!!