And Its Happening…!!!

It was a rainy morning and Sara was on her way to an interview, well prepared and well-dressed believing in her own self to get the job and enter the corporate sector! Hard working she was and now she wanted to fly and this was the gateway. She reached the interview place where she went through rounds of interviews, giving her best shot and there she goes – she was selected. Little did she knew that she had just stepped her first step to the most beautiful phase peeping with so many smiles and happiness in her life! She got another offer to join a recruiting firm in the HR department. Sara – thought over for a while and she finally accepted the second offer to join in the recruiting firm. Happy as always, she joined a little later than the appointment letter date and was set to open her wings to touch the sky! There she met a guy named Amit, more of a senior who was the team leader – a handsome young guy but then still a formal relationship and so started a new journey for this innocent bubbly girl. Sara, was learning new things every single day, every day seemed more of a blessing to explore the white collared people. Looking at the spark in her she was spot by Amit and he insisted on to the directors that he would love to make Sara a part of his team. And so be it, Amit being one of the most trusted employees of the entity was allowed to choose Sara to be a part of his team.

Everything seemed so new and all on track till the day when Sara took an unplanned leave and Oops!! The beautiful dream of everything being so smooth just broke! And there she was fired by the directors! Sara was all shattered, sitting all alone with her tears in the corner of the cabin she had cried buckets and that had no effect on any of the staff people. And the most unexpected happened – her team leader hiding it all from the senior officials got her tissue papers kept in between the note pad so that no one could see it consoled her. He further took a step and once again asked the directors to let Sara a second chance. And history repeated – Sara was given a second chance. This girl was happier than happiest! She found herself lucky enough to have such a senior and could not thank him enough. Gradually they both became good friends and further the friendship extended to meetings after office hours as well but only as casual friends.  Sara of course owed Amit for not getting fired. As the formal talks ended, they realized that they had many mutual friends in common, out of which one was the girl whom Amit had a crush on! And SPOT ON! Girls who are good friends can sense the liking of their guy friends easily… So did happen here, Sara deciphered that Amit liked a girl and so she put herself on the Mission to get close to that girl and make things happen for Amit! She started arranging ice cream dates for both of them expecting “A LOT CAN HAPPEN OVER AN ICE CREAM” But then may be destiny had something else written for them. The wait before the date started seemed more interesting than the date itself! The after and before time of the date was waited and prepared for more than the date itself! They liked each other’s company and hardly did they realized that now the ice cream dates had turned to coffee dates where the only people to be meeting were both of them! It was clearly evident that there is something cooking up in their hearts when they went to a local fair, she had again planned the evening in a way where she called up Amit’s crush to the fair so that they could spend some time together and may be the story moves further! She came all decently dressed without any intention to catch anyone’s eye, but then Amit had to skip a beat, his eyes caught him in a way that they just got locked on Sara. He was sitting in a merry-go-round with the girl, he once said he had a crush on! And his eyes moved towards Sara who was in some other ride. In the huge crowd out in the fair, so much of chaos, everyone yelling from one corner to the other they both could manage to find peace and smiles in each other’s eyes. But still they hadn’t yet realized the change. They liked working long hours at office so that they could be with each other. They started sharing the unsaid things. They started reading the unspoken words. They started feeling something different which was beautiful enough and still none of them could express that!

The team leader never favoured but yeah Amit helped Sara with big projects by staying up late. The steaming coffees from coffee machine would steam up the conversations after office where topics ranged from professional to personal to darkest secrets! And still they didn’t realize that they were something more than friends! Amit wasn’t shy but he wasn’t sure and Sara wasn’t shy but she did see the changes happening!

The corporate sector was teaching Sara new tricks every day, it was training her to be competitive every single minute and she loved to prove herself in the race. She changed roles from most junior position to all promotions in the hierarchy, she trained herself to be an all rounder in whatever task she was assigned to. Though this was what her career and her dreams moulded her to, her heart also moulded her to be a caretaker, a nurse and constant alarm clock reminding Amit to take his medicines on time. It so happened that Amit caught a viral which really took a toll on his health. Being the head, he really couldn’t afford taking leaves (even medical leaves, because he too was much a professional when it came to his career) and so he carried his medicines to his desk. High in fever and still had not a single off beat mode while throwing a presentation to his team. But then now there was someone who could read his eyes, who can understand the real pain behind every “I am fine, just a little viral” and that made Sara a nurse as well, without fail there was medicines kept out on the desk at scheduled times, water was boiled and given, on every of his “I will manage” Sara took up the tasks assigned to Amit and helped him as far as possible. Within a week, Amit did recover but then there was something that was changing. Friends had now grown up to be best friends! To be the best task timers to each other, motivating each other to grow in every sense!

They could feel so many feelings! Both had a thousand words to say! They wanted to express! They wanted to hold back each other and say but then things weren’t falling right way! Till the day which may be had only made its place in the calendar for them came – Sara was planning for a weekend with her siblings to a beach and the plans had to be shared with Amit. (after all he was more of her human diary to her). Amit agreed to drop Sara the other day where Sara’s siblings were planning to meet! And the ice in them finally broke! One of them approached with enough guts, a fear as well and a joy as well! They finally decided to take a stand on the proposal once Sara is back from her weekend. Sara went on to the trip. She enjoyed herself. The night before returning she just got drunk, a little extra, more then something what was normal. She had simply lost her senses and had no consciousness of the situations, the drinks simply hallucinated her, her eyes had flash backs of the office coffees, the shy smile of hers when accidentally Amit’s hand touched her hand during a presentation, she could recollect the eye contact they had in fair, she could remember the proposal where the stand was yet to be taken, she was over loaded with all the memories, she could realize the way she cared for him even for the slightest cold he caught, and the way he handled things with directors when any assignment given to her took a little longer then expected. The cold breeze and the camp fire along the beach side were just adding fuel to these thoughts, she got up, picked up Vodka bottle and tried walking with her baby steps which weren’t even supporting her to walk in the direction she wants to. She collided in the soft sand, where the waves were touching her feet, as if playing with her and trying to be naughty with her. She pushed her hand right in the pocket and pulled her cell out. Struggling to open up the screen lock she somehow managed to call up Amit. On the other side, Amit received the call in a go, after all the fragrance of love was throwing its magic back here in Pune as well. Though Amit was physically lying on his bed, he had pulled up his blanket nearly 10 times after himself throwing it down. Both hearts were restless. One was struggling for its peace near the beach side and the other found peace when he saw his screen blink in the mid night. It flashed – SARA CALLING and not to his surprise his heart danced, his hands vibrated and his eyes were finally ending the unrest. He just pounced out from his bed, walked towards the terrace, receiving the call and finally when he heard Sara call him with his name “Hello Amit,” and his heart which was throbbing at a speed higher than a racing bike now calmed its pace! “Yes Sara,” he answered. She spoke and he just heard. The night changed the days, it changed their lives.

Next day, Sara left to Pune, as decided they were supposed to meet at the café in the evening. And today, Sara dressed up, not because she was going out, but because she was gonna see Amit! She didn’t even recollect what all she spoke a night before but yeah; she did realize that it was something which her heart wanted! Something which she was happy with! She was ready to meet Amit! And on the other hand, Amit too was excited, the words Sara said the previous night made him so very comfortable with the situation! They met, even before anything, their eyes could peep in all the thousand thoughts both of them had. They were of course gonna have some serious talks, because they weren’t planning for some teenage affair! Things were serious enough! They spoke through words and even more through eyes! They framed in to each other the ground realities – The Love Story if allowed to bloom was gonna bloom in the garden of diverse cultures of India! The story was not just another typical Romeo-Juliet types! It was all about the cultural differences in the Hindu traditional Family and a Christian Family! It was a Desi Munda who had lost his heart for this beautiful young girl! Where one bowed down in front of elders the other bowed her head only in Church! Where he came from a culture where even the “Mummy k chachi k bete k biwi ki Chacheri Behen” was not too far relation and she had her entire world in her parents! But then love doesn’t understand all this! It just happens! It just connects and when it matches the right frequency it finds its own way to make its survival! When its meant to be – it will be! And Amit held Sara’s hand where both weren’t sure about life commitments at the start! They hadn’t planned anything even for 2 years from now stuff! 23rd of June 2017 – they just dreamt of a beautiful story. They just got themselves on a journey not knowing how long were they gonna travel, not knowing what was their destination. Because they had left it on their hearts! They had asked destiny to decide for them!

They started dating officially! Now Sara, stepped to Amit’s cubicle with a sense of entering her own territory where a part of her was sitting! Things weren’t smooth for them. Though the start was sweet enough. They gradually started having differences in them – they had trust issues, they had arguments, they had fights! Office at times became more of a punishment! The brewing hot coffee from the coffee machine which once stimulated their talks now added steam to their anger! And done! They decided to part off! Unknown of the fact was it a full stop or was is it comma of their love story! They just ended it all! The tough desi munda had tears in his eyes before ending the talks and leaving! And Sara, had this so close to her heart. Because no one ever made saying “BYE” so difficult! Amit was in tears! And so was Sara! They both got reconnected! The tears took their own justice in their own swag! The story was given a second chance by both of them!

And yes! It was worth!! They made it to its best! Then was the day where they had met to decide things for one last time and end it all! And now is the day that every time they meet it is a new planning for a better future! The story faced many ups and downs! Where Sara was depressed, she felt no hopes because of reasons undisclosed but then every time she felt herself alone, there came her support system to stand by her, divide her every tear and multiply her ever smile! He stood by her like a shield when life turned her down and this same guy at times also becomes the cutest baby as small as 3-4 years old kid who will sit quietly in front of Sara, with hands folded and eyes closed and Sara will do the grooming part like his personalized make-up girl! They both fight like cats and bound back like best friends! They dance their every success and stand back together like the phoenix bird! They redefine love!

Sara – who only celebrated Christmas now has so much to shop for on Diwalis as well! And Amit for whom Christmas only meant Santa and cakes -now understands the all-night carols and prayers! The okay-okay hindi of Sara now had words like “AAP and HUM” and rowdy English of Amit had a decent enough accent! Sara’s parents did have a problem with their inter-religion love but then seeing their daughter smile, they too were satisfied that Amit can be the “MOST ELIGIBLE GUY”

This beautiful coupe fighting all odds has finally decided to tie a knot on 31st October 2021! May you guys be blessed with all you dream for!

The Joint Family System

Nowadays due to jobs, career, education or some or the other reason we have to distance from our families at quite an early age! And once we step of the house maximum is the case that you only return back on functions or occasions and with time that too vanishes!

Joint family is being like rarest scenarios in today’s era! Just tried why joint families are not preferred – simple reasons being – youngsters of our generation need freedom, privacy and hate being monitored!

But these are just a few points where we focus on and tend to forget the benefits or rather the perks of staying in a joint family! Perks are as many as you count. Highlighting a few – a mental support – COVID has tested our mental strength at its peak! And most of the nuclear families did choose going back to hometowns – why – simple reason – family makes you stronger, it makes you believe in yourself when you lose hopes! Family stands by you when your shadow too choses to leave your side!

Feeling of being responsible and answerable to our elders – even the feeling of your father/mother being back at home makes you a little more responsible to be with your family on weekends, to be there at home on time, to shut your system and spend quality time with the kids of family! Decisions taken by youth are hard and fast – many a times we lack patience and calmness in deciding for a situation which can be guided well by the elders as they have seen a little more of world and worldly things than us! We as youth tend to splurge on things which are scrapped within a month whereas the same luxuries can be availed from available things at home!

Children born in nuclear family where both parents have their corporate lifestyles – are either brought up in creche or somewhere where supervision lacks love and warmth every child deserves. Whereas grandparents back at home face loneliness in their retired life – when these two ends meet – they make a better life – kids enjoy their childhood under the shelter of family and are brought up with values. Though working parents try making their best possible way out to train their kids but ultimately time is their constraint which gradually makes one parent compromise their career – and easiest solution being joint family – where kids are constantly attended by some one or the other and grandparents are taken care of with their health as well as. The retired age being the time they just need love, affection and respect is also paid heed to.

And lastly though not of prime importance but yes it does matter – We do have upper hand on financial terms as well – Something described as economies of scale – Two different set ups for sure is costlier than a single set up for two families. Expenses being shared (as simple as rent being shared by two brothers surely saves huge cost then two brothers staying in different apartments in same city) and labour being divided joint family does make your off days a little lighter.

There can be unavoidable situations where we travel far from families but there must be something which does call you back to your origin – where your heart longs to celebrate smallest victory with your parents and share biggest failures and have strength to stand back more stronger!

Of course, there can be arguments that there is no individual space or there is no privacy but then like we as children have evolved many of the families do have parents who themselves take initiatives to make sure that their daughters and daughters-in-law peacefully work and build their careers! Many have set examples where girls have completed their education post marriage and give credits to the support received from their in-laws. So with modernization in all matters – let us just broaden our horizons of joint family concept – where parents are being a little more open to accept the work culture of their children (be it the son or daughter or even daughter-in-law for that matter) and children being a little tolerant to parents at times when they become to instructive, where parents are little more welcoming to include every person before deciding matters of family and children are matured enough to understand the thought process of parents’ decision

After all – everything is a two-way process – the more love and care you give the more affection and respect you receive. The more you tend to understand someone the more other person tends to explain reasons!

I would just conclude by – “No Family is perfect, every family argues, they fight, they cry but the essence of love and bond is felt when the tears are wiped with sensitivity and arguments are calmed with pure hugs, no family has only ups the real bonds are tested when there are downfalls, when your brother stands by you in storms and sisters cook on your smallest victory, where you celebrate your wife’s first job with home-cooked lunch specially made by the in-laws and the ice cream party with her first salary and your child’s first trophy is flaunted by his grandparents on their whatsapp friends’ group!

It’s the smallest happiness which turns to delicious evenings and loads of memories when family stays together! Joint families are no more the old-school types where daughters aren’t a part of discussions and daughters’-in-law aren’t allowed to step out of the house. Weekend evenings are fast turning to dining table conferences where women head the table and men cook food [though kitchen are made messy but then that’s okay ;)], where the small terrace gardens are cared with full family and kitchens are cleaned by kids. Yes – joint families are changing on a very positive note!

#Smile and Spread Smiles

5 By 5 Rule

What is 5 by 5 rule??

Best thing I did in the lockdown….

How much does it matter to when others give their opinion to you, how much do you keep thinking when others say something to you…? Definitely a lot. This is what I feel we are growing into

The 5-minute argument with our colleagues, parents, friends, partner, or anyone for that matter disturbs us the whole day.

Whyyyyyy???

So, here’s the solution to it. Its natural human tendency to keep thinking when others opinion doesn’t match with ours. But its okay right. You aren’t here to please everyone. there will be a difference of opinion when you do something new.

So, what is the 5by5 rule, all of you must be thinking about it till now

It is simple but will surely be a difficult one to inculcate. the more you start using it will seem easy one then

Are the arguments that you have with someone matter you in the next 5 years, if no then it simply doesn’t deserve your 5-minute attention and energy that you waste today. Quit worrying about things.

Lemme explain it to you with an example, let’s go backwards and think about life, what do you remember in the past, I bet it would be the most significant events and not everything. so, taking another example we recently build a new house and every day the contractor would come with some new reasons to not show up to our place and somehow avoid completing the construction. There was nothing we could do about it. The more we discussed in the house the huger they seemed to us. So, we finally just stopped discussing about them. Coz was that going to matter to me in the next five years, was it even worth wasting our energy onto it. That’s how easy it was. It really astonishes me how little a problem becomes when you start thinking with a perspective of the future

Of course, there are big things and tragedies that we can’t forget in a span of 5 minutes, but this rule is for the little things we stress upon almost every other day.

Definitely many of you might think I’m too small to speak up to all these things but why not learn these things at a tender age so that people don’t need to use the terms like depression, loneliness, anxiety much often.

I hope I impact lives of at least 5 and not many. And the rule stays with you forever, I’m sure it will work magical for you too.

You can check out the same in Video!!!

Rat Race

Man eats Man! Does he? Maybe YES! The way the markets compete so competitively it does. You don’t do a task up to the mark and gone, you are no more in the good books of your company. Your promotion sometimes gets a pause due to your own deficiency and at times due to fault in our stars (Just meant you’re not so good luck). Let’s just jot down what are the reasons to stress at your workplace:

1. Different views on the same issue: Might so happen that in a team there are varied solutions on the same issue and your view is that your proposal is the best and there arises conflicts! Can we deal with it in a decent manner – Of course Yes. Let it be mutual decision, let it include the best points of all the ideas so that everyone is included

2. No credits given – Often it happens, that the project you worked on, the success you burnt the midnight oil for is all gone to someone else. And this is an obvious reason to feel lost because it so happens that when you work your heart out for some project you get attached to it, it is like your own baby which you started from the scratch and taken to heights. Though the solutions to this are better while reading but implementation happens to be difficult, we can try resolving things always – you can sit and explain things to your seniors

3. Early promotions of juniors – Okay, this is more of a human behaviour that you naturally have a feeling of superiority when you have been engaged for a longer time with an institute. Just sit back and think calmly – were you really up to the mark, I would like to highlight and say compare your productivity with what you feel you can do and not with someone else. Maybe you were expected to give better results because you had the potential.

Well, you know the problems are just never ending, it is like the more I jot down the more the list increases. You know your own problems much better than anyone else sitting back and just doing the guess work for you. All I wanna just suggest is – you can try this method of resolving your issues – take a place in the corner of your room, or just sit back on the terrace with a pen and blank paper. Divide the paper in 2 halves roughly and write down what you can do and mark yourself out of 10. Like just a self-evaluation of whether you really are giving your 100%

Try this one and I am sure you will have a better picture of what you can do and where you are lagging! You can use that pen-paper technique in many things – just change your headings and use it!!

Do write back about is this helping you in the comments section or ping me or just drop mail on letsendthestigma1@gmail.com. I would be glad to hear from you.

Explore Life – don’t have stereotypes

Before reading this one – I just want all of you to close your eyes and just imagine what is your definition of having a perfect life! Ah! I really want you to do that (in fact if you could spare a little extra time just get a pen and paper and roughly jot down what are your few to ideas of your kind off perfect life, a perfect day etc)

How many of you thought of it like – a lavish house, a car, good job and stuff like so. If you must have done this – Congrats! You are very much normal – because that’s the way we have brought up our mind to think! But then this is routine right!? Can we think apart from this – let us try!

Can the definition of PERFECT – not be the labels from the past and be something new and original! Something like – Happy you, sitting back in your garden, enjoying the morning sunlight and treating your eyes with the glimpses of butterflies playing with brightly coloured flowers! Or something like this – which is more soothing to your heart and not only to your pockets. I know many of you must be like – this just sounds good in books but real life needs materialistic things, and I totally agree as well! But all I wanna say is – can those worldly desires be side lined and the other goals which don’t sound to be that conventional be mainstream!

Like why have we just accepted the western culture in terms of their dressings and parties! Why not the other things – Here we have defined age for everything education till 22-24, then marry by 25, then kids before 30s (or else there are unimaginable questions raised) and house, then educate kids(till that time we are already reaching heights of exertion – mentally and physically), then their life is our life (daadi-dada and Naani Nana)! Western Countries do not have a defined age for education – they have enrolments in universities even in their 30s and 40s. They start new ventures even in their late 40s.

Can we just explore our limits of what we can do and all our capabilities! Try it out – take up a weekly challenge that you think of something new every week – the same old thing which you did in a specific manner from years – try doing it differently. You will be happy of creating new things – be it as small as just arranging your study table or normally you cut vegetables long now dice it in small cubes – do things differently. (even psychology, says that this keeps your brain active)

Try out new things and do write back about it in the comments section or just drop mail onletsendthestigma1@gmail.com. I would be glad to hear from you.

Don’t be careful!

Reading the title, you guys must be like – Esha, are you fine! What are you talking about – DON’T BE CAREFUL! I really repeat don’t be too careful, don’t try to be too perfect at every task you take up. Planning every phase is okay but not hard-core plans where even an inch of unexpected blasts and Boom!! You get shattered – like oh god! What next! Let there be some innocence left, let there be surprises which life plans for you! If you are too organized those surprises come more like shocks because that wasn’t that you had planned in black and blue.

Prepare well for every upcoming challenge but it is really fine if situations turn your efforts down, maybe there was something better for you. It’s your life not a coded machine where the sequence can be drafted by you. Let things happen. It will be more magical and life will have spice in it!

Do write back about is this helping you in the comments section or just drop mail on letsendthestigma1@gmail.com. I would be glad to hear from you.

Be the light!

This is a series on “Protecting Mental Health” and every day you will have your dose of motivation to understand yourself and the people around you better.

Focus of today’s write up is “let us be there”

Every incidence has got a lesson and we need to learn from it! YES! We need to understand the reasons and remedies to it! Let us not be there for everyone – We have got specialized people for that, right? We have counsellors, we have psychologists, we have therapists its like we do have professionals to handle when things are beyond control.

What we can do is – let us just be there for people whom we cross our paths to. I am not asking you to be there at the cost of your own peace! Naa, not at all, but atleast we can make sure that our actions don’t hurt anyone. Our words don’t rip someone’s heart. It might happen that we aren’t in confirmation with the person sitting across the table, it might so happen that even after taking same efforts someone else has taken up a bigger promotion, it might happen that things just go upside down – but that gives us no right to start abusing or criticizing the other person. It was his share of success; it was his luck. It is okay to grow slow but it is not okay to grow at the cost of someone else’s unrest. You do not justify yourself when you sleep peacefully when someone else is facing inconvenience just because of you.

It is like the chain – you think for others, you be there for others and someone else returns it back to you! Life will get much simpler this way. We are all one community – we are all tied in knots of humanity. Let us be humans’ friends! Let us be there for every one and do our small bit to help the world be a better place to live in!

Tomorrow we will be learning as to “Why do we stress up?”

(You can always ping me on my Instagram (Aishwarya Jaju) to suggest topics or even reply back here in the comments or simply mail on – letsendthestigma1@gmail.com ! And if you find reading this helped you do share it!!)

Corona and Doctors!!!!

He was travelling back to India nearly after some 18 months! He was going to see his ailing mom, his darling wife and recently graduated sister after so many days, weeks and months. There on the airport waiting in the queue to get the primary check-up done which was mandatory for every international flight passenger due to recent epidemic outbreak of CORONA, he just happened to sneeze and not to his surprise this time his sneeze accompanied him with all eyes looking at him as if he was a culprit in the town, there was no bless-you after the sneeze anymore! People just shifted apart from him, his own family members who were waiting for him were not so eager anymore and insisted on to see the hospitals before. People had concerns of their kids, their families back at home, their future, their health and the list continue! No one wanted this man even in a meter’s radius!

The only person who came and touched was a simple masked doctor, well he too had a wife waiting at home for the night’s dinner, his children waiting to share the day’s stories with him, parents who looked up to him as their support to old age. He too was concerned about his health but still he stepped forward to take this man to a cabin where detailed checks were to be done!
Why this incidence!!??

We see fluent attacks on doctors happening all round the country, there are huge break outs done at their dispensaries or hospitals just because of a natural death of their closed one! Doctors are not GOD!! They are just a medium through which we have hopes to get cured well, through which we see a better and easy lifestyle, they do all they can to save a life but it isn’t magic – that a doctor touches a person and woohoo!! All is done right!!
They are humans, it is a fact that sometimes there are errors and, in their profession, a slightest error costs a life and so they are normally people who are much sincere and committed to their profession! All I want to convey to all of you reading this is – they too have a family back where they are needed, they have never backed out on their responsibility – be it midnights or be it wee-mornings! They have sacrificed their personal lives as well for the betterment of the society! So, as a human being let us be a little sensitive as well and thank them for all they have done and will be doing! Respect doctors – because if they fall short in committing their time and sincerity towards us, epidemics like Corona, Swine flu will be more of disasters for entire human race!!

Proud to be a daughter of two highly committed doctors and also associated with number of doctors directly or indirectly!! Thank you for all your efforts and honest advices which saved 100s of lives till now!!

You are reflection of your surroundings!

You’re just an imitation of what is around you, its just that you don’t imitate one person; you take bits and pieces of hundred people and make yourself

I was small when my mum always had a concern of all the tiny heads which would flock in our house to play, laugh, complete homework and enjoy the best days of life. It wasn’t the mess we created in and around that dreaded her, it was the children coming home, their upbringing and their culture in which they were brought which was her concern! She was very keen on choosing the right people as friends and I always had a grudge as to its okay whosoever they are! I just play with them and will not be influenced with any of their habits! But then entering the house without a brief introduction of my friends was next to impossible!

Now when I started analysing things myself and knowing the psychology behind her worried eyes, I totally agree to her! You are known by the company you keep! Not because it’s a saying! But because your brain constantly snaps images of the attitudes – be it good or bad of all the people you surround with. These small snaps taken slowly and steadily start throwing impression on our personality! And to be checked out in practise – take an example if your boss is in a grumpy mood and you happen to be the target point as soon as you have taken your seat early morning. You are thrashed and abused in hard words in front of a few colleagues, later you take the same grumpy vibes to the cafeteria which is simply carried ahead to your kids waiting back home. So, you see, you gradually become the way you receive vibes! You read a positive quote and you are all filled with motivation. Atleast for the next few days you work with a new energy and focus!

So, it’s simple – I vibe, your vibe… WE VIBE. Be surrounded with positive people, the optimistic ones, those which send you a positive energy! Those who allow you to be a little better than your best version

Journey!

Don’t focus on the destination, enjoy the journey!

Having a conversation with millionaire who was in his early 70s, verbal sketch was something like – a wrinkled face with a sparkle and a glow flowing out, attire he worn was perfect for a business class meeting (though he was retired man), head covered with dove white silky hair (as if one could play the find-black-hair challenge), hands shivering but still the handshake was firm enough to understand the throw in his personality, he stood all straight without a stick, very meticulously he had a choice about everything – be it what he wore, what he read, what he ate and so on and so forth! Impressed by the way he presented himself to me! I actually looked upon this young-old man to throw light on topics like life, career, future, goals and stuff and initiated the conversation.

And there this man had a crisp to explain me these things – which normally sound as rocket science for teens and a big fat topic for parents to such teens! He just had summarized in words which meant that love what you do! Without the fear of what will be the result. The more you get result oriented, the more mechanical you are. The more you tend to fit yourself in a strict format, the more you happen to be machine. The more you get into stuff of pulling eggs in one basket, higher are the chances to topple and break a few.

He had his view explained right with an array of examples – he asked me to climb the morning in wee morning hours and then notice the way the sky changes it colours from dark night black to beautiful golden orange. The cold breeze that kisses you all the while you push yourself to the top. The silent darkness turning to the chirpy morning. Once you reach the highest point, the journey is over and you arrive to your destination, the view from the top is treat to your eyes because you have seen the canvas of sky with the most beautiful shades, you had felt the chilled morning travel its way through to the first ray of morning. The destination seems better and journey wont tire you even through its longest route if you simply learn to live the process and not the results.

And wow! How impressed I was to acknowledge this thought while recollecting the biggest of my achievements! You too can take it as an assignment! May be while cooking or while on your way back home or while on a walk, think of your biggest heights you reached and you will realize the result gives you satisfaction and sense of completeness but the minute you find yourself smiling acknowledge the memory you just recalled which was a part of the journey you travelled!