Dear Parents!

Do you get fed up with every new problem your child draws to you with every new sun rise and sun set?! Or are you mentally harassed with all complains from the school or signing the ill remarks and visiting the school for your child more often then one visits the temple/church!?

Children – many believe that children are god’s gift. Then why do their problems become a tedious task to handle! As a parent, you indeed should take this situation as an opportunity where you can help your child to come out the difficulty and stand better than before. The next time your child has some issues which cannot be figured out at his end, instead of simply grumbling or comparing in two siblings and demonstrating how one is inferior to the other, take a pause and think on it. The young minds are more keen observers than the adult brains. So, take that unpleasant situation as an opportunity to build in your relationship to better standards. Running away from the situation by pushing the things off to your spouse or some other person will only ruin your image in your child’s mind. They observe your actions as well as the reactions you give them when they need your help and that is what you develop on their minds. That is the way you develop their personality. Many of you still may not be convinced by this discussion so far, so let us take a business example a simple reason being that in the fast-changing world. Trade is the only word which the illiterates are also literate in. You have a high revenue generating client of yours but at the same time is too irritating in terms of a thousand queries! Do you skip off or try grumbling over on him! Not at all. Then how can your children, the biggest assets of your personal balance sheets be an irritation when they have queries or need your help in understanding their own weak points!

 

Parents, a thought on this is surely needed! Do think! You are the potters of your little pots. Shape them with a little extra understanding and be there behind when they need a support and belief that you will hold them back if they fall.

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Dad and daughters (1)

This is may be a voice of every small girl to her dad (Indian middle-class family who has his job from morning 8 to say something 6 in the evening)
Papa, today I had a holiday and was waiting for this day from past one week, so that I could tell you my school stories, so that I could make your hair like Justin Bieber, so that I could tie two ponies and put my favourite nail colour on your nails!! I was planning about the day with you so that I could create some memories in my childhood.
Baba, you know I do miss you a lot, When I get up you are already on your way to office, running with your tiffin and you just come back after reaching the door to kiss me a good day to school. Starting the day with your beautiful smile I get ready for my school, dreaming of a day that one day atleast your office goes on strike so that you could leave me to school, so that we could have so many talks and I could tell you how bitterly I miss your hugs and how badly I need you! Back then, when you come home, I am at my dance classes and by the time I come home you are either hooked in to some important presentation for the next day or planning about the monthly budget or may be simply chalking out the expenses of house!! Without disturbing you I just observe you or probably sometimes come and help you with my so called extra fast mathematics additions which you give me so that I don’t start with my chatter box 😉😉!!
The time being so bad it just flies off when you are at home!!
So today, I have decided that the day is ours! I will tell you all the fairy tales I watch on Disney, today I will teach you how to write and how to draw, you know I even learnt to paint a little, Papa, we will also go shopping , I wanna get a new pair of socks for you because yesterday I did notice you hiding your leg behind the chair because of the torn patch on the socks! I wanna show you all the stars I got for neat writing, I wanna spend a morning with you watching the sun touch the sky, I wanna walk a mile with you and see the sun setting, I wanna show you the moon plays hide and seek with me through my bedroom window!
Papa, I was really happy today, because I had a holiday and was gonna spend the entire day at home till the time your phone rang and you had an emergency meeting scheduled in an hour!
I was upset! I was about to cry and the minute you said I have promised the day with my princess, let the meeting be postponed I just ran and hugged you! I had my world with me! I had the most amazing memory of my childhood crafted today!!

(To all the dearest fathers!!! Spend more and more time with your daughters, because tomorrow when you might have time your daughter might have been wedded off!! And you spend hours with all the childhood photos where you were missing due to some important meeting, a business tour or some other upcoming project!!)

Luckiest daughters ever!!!! Papa love you alot

Punyacha Bappa Morya

A few snaps of the beautiful Ganeshotsav at Pune

And the most grand….

आमचा लाडका श्रीमंत दगडूशेठ हलवाई गणपती!!!!


गणपती बाप्पा मोरया… मंगलमूर्ती मोरया…’ च्या जयघोषात संपूर्ण पुणे 10 दिवस अगदीच रमून जातं.

अजूनतर पुणेकरांचा अस्सल नाद – ढोल-ताशा सुरू व्हायचा आहे!!!

Bappa Morya!!!!!!

Smile and spread smiles

(PC – Sameeksha😘😘)

Bappa Morya….!!!

One of the most awaited festival of entire Maharashtra – Ganesh Chaturthi!!!

Where Lord Ganesha is welcomed with great respect, joy and love to everyone’s home!! Staying with us for 10 days, he makes the atmosphere vibrate in energy – all to a different level!!

If Mumbai is known for the huge idols touching the sky from where the almighty showers his lovely blessings!!! We Punekars – rather proud Punekar welcome Bappa in grandeur of the traditional Dhol-Tasha, lezim the colorful rangolis and even the air sings along with us – Ganpati Bappa Morya Mangal Murthi Morya!!!

Today let us just get briefed that why and how is Ganesh Chaturthi Celebrated?

The first section of the Mahabharata states that it was Ganesha who wrote down the text to Vyasa’s dictation. Ganesha is said to have agreed to write it only if Vyasa never paused in his recitation. Vyasa agrees on condition that Ganesha takes the time to understand what was said before writing it down.

So, Ganesha began to write Mahabharata along with Ved Vyasa. They wrote Mahabharata in 10 days without taking a pause. They didn’t eat/drink anything during these 10 days. Due to this, Ganesha was dehydrated.

So, a layer of clay(mitti) was applied all over his body. Then he was asked to get in river and cool down.(Something similar to Ganesh Visarjan)

And this is why we celebrate Ganesh Chaturthi and immerse Ganeshji in water.

How is it celebrated?

Lord Ganesha – believed to be the remover of obstacles (Vighnaharta), and the god of intellect and wisdom (Buddhi Devta).

Worshipped by nearly all castes and all around the globe – Japan, Sri Lanka, Bangladesh etc. Ganesha being everyone’s favorite be it the Bollywood celebrities or the common Man – I am sure everyone in our childhood must have gone crazy for the way the decorations will be done, who will get Bappa home, who will be the one performing the first aarti etc. The grand celebration starts with the installation of Ganesh idols in colorfully decorated temporary made structures – one which is made at our homes – where creativity just flows at peak – Bappa sitting on mountain type structure, at times on bed of flowers etc.  Followed by the rituals – Pranapratishhtha – the process of infusing the deity into a murti or idol, Shhodashopachara – 16 forms of paying tribute to Ganesha,

At the time of the ritual coconut, jaggery, modaks, durva i.e. blades of grass and hibiscus flowers (His favorite flowers was what mom always told me from childhood) are offered and throughout the ceremonial occasion several hymns echoes down the mind of devotees bringing in a divine peace.

During the 10 days – if in case you have ever been part of the competitions that are held in societies, you will surely recall all those fancy dress where one becomes doctor, the other Bhaji wali and its all fun and enjoyment. 10 days just fly off in the air of happiness!!

On the last day, immersion of the statues in the ocean, or other bodies of water, and their subsequent destruction serves as a reminder of this belief. (These are traditionally known as Uttarpuja – Puja after which the idol could be shifted after it’s infusion, Ganpati Visarjan – immersion of the Idol in the river.)

 

Lastly. I would like to make an appeal – the tradition of immersing Bappa in river bodies was not a harm as the idols made then were of clay, mud and colurs were all natural and hence were no harm to the water animals! But in todays times the idols are all made of non-degradable material which harms the water diversity and endangers their living. Start a change from yourself immerse your “Ladka Bappa” in the artificial pools created by the local authorities.

(I am really proud that even though I was brought up in a traditional family where traditions are strictly followed as they were, on understanding the need to change our thoughts, we have been practicing Ganesh Visarjan in a self-made water tank sort of structure from past 3 years and will be continuing the same.)

Dyankala!

The ones who are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones who actually do that!!

In today’s run of life….where each of us just wanna learn, earn, save, invest, expand and still stop not, I was lucky enough to come across a unique foundation – Dyankala Sanvardhini Sanstha!

If I had to describe it in few lines, it would be like – Found by the women, for the women (rather girls and boys!!)  and of the women!! Here from the helpers to the founders all were the ones, whom the society often points as – Bicharri akeli naari or something like “girls cannot move milestones all alone, they need men”….

Dyankala Sanstha – basically a school for the children who do not have a very strong financial back ground to spend that handsome amount and get enrolled in hi-tech schools!!! Found by few ladies who had a constant burning desire to educate the society – WITHOUT ANY SORT OF GRANT!!! These ladies along with managing their family responsibilities took up this noble task and continued even at the hardest times. Investing hard earned money in charity is actually something HUGE!!  And they made this huge seem so simple to the world.

Working with same enthusiasm and energy was something which was and is still worth watching! The way these young old ladies come and plan for students, the way they run like school girls through the stairs, that spark to serve the society is just amazing!!!

Along with my principal (Sir) I visited the premises for a meeting regarding audit which was just done, as soon as we entered, Kolatkar Maam with her white hair, neatly tucked saree welcomed us with that  bright smile saying “Welcome, this is like my second home, I enjoy being here and working for them. Entering  the meeting room, we sat around with all ladies, and there enters a old lady in her 80’s who needed no support, loud in voice, and full of confidence!!

Radha Maam, Kogekar Maam, Shilpa Maam, Kusum Maam, the teachers, the co-staff everyone was working for the betterment of society. They devoted their time, money and energy to the foundation. Post meeting they had a discussion, in which one of them expressed that somehow she could manage to collect a donation of Rs 5000/-, and the way everyone rejoiced was like they actually were benefited personally. And looking at this, I actually felt like in some small way I would love to be a help, and extended saying, Maam In case I can be of any help other then the audits and financial statements, let me know I would feel lucky to donate something!!!

The foundation and its members actually made me believe that “Service to man is service to God”

On a sincere note, using this platform I would like to spread the message – If you cannot donate money, its fine, you have much more than that to donate and make world a better place to live – Donate your time in betterment of society, be a part of such foundations! You need not donate huge amounts, be it your birthday cake which you were gonna  waste throwing on each other’s face can be someone’s source of books for entire year!

Think and create a change!!! It will be worth a living!!

Time – Best Teacher

Teacher’s day,

Well, today scrolling down on my feed page, I just came across a more interesting definition of “Teacher”  -and that was time!! Giving it thought actually dragged me to my laptop and blog something for the day!!

Thoughts just gushed after reading that line which simply read as “Happy Teachers Day” – Time

There were memories which took me back to childhood, when time taught me to get up by myself every time I fell running on that playground!

Then came the first ever time that I left dad’s little finger and had to face the world all by myself.

That first time I raised my voice against the injustice I saw in bus – Time taught me to be outspoken!

Then were the college days, when time taught me that nothing comes served in your plate, to get things one needs to walk out, turn and face some tussles, and there you get what you worked for!

Then I entered Chartered Accountancy and here Time finally became the ultimate teacher (May-November games had its own way to teach me struggle and work hard consistently)

Time taught me that wait and watch is only a myth – It is all about do and deserve!!

Time taught me that you can’t get aside by working hard for a day – you need to be consistent to give in your 100% and then expect that your result “CAN” be positive!

During articleship – time taught me to be patient enough to hear more and speak less! To learn more and preach less! To be a silent observer and reply only when asked!

Time taught me that you never get free time! Your priorities decide when you are free!!

Time taught me that once gone it never comes back!! Live each moment to its fullest, enjoy every minute as it passes by, because it slips off your hand in a way that just undone!! There is no Control+Z option available so simply create memories – good memories and Control+S!!!

Happy Teacher’s Day – To a common teacher for each and every person, of each and every age group!!!

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TIME – BEST TEACHER OF ALL TIMES!!!!

Sister like brother!

Something off the track was on my mind today!! Somehow I just couldn’t figure out what was going back there in that mystery box of my head which was making me feel so very uneasy! And there went a light straight throwing my attention that its time to take my pen and write down something!! To boost my creativity and to get lost in the world of words!!!

But the next thought was on what should I write! And next bulb that glows up is “Rakhi” Yeah! Raksha Bandhan one of the super favorite festival of siblings who fight all day long… who scream out like hell on each other even if a useless gets misplaced, who will snatch each others ice cream, who will leak out secrets and yet again have a privilege to be each others secret box!! A festival to celebrate the bond of Brother-Sister relationship!!

Its weird right, the sister with whom that mischievous brother would have all sorts of fights and arguments is the one who cries the most the day she gets wedded off! Well for sisters too, goes the same story, a scratch on her brother’s knee and she will create an entire havoc out there with all huge tears and extra care and pampering!!

For me, Raksha Bandhan never had an special attraction (being two sisters). But as and when we grew up it did catch my eye! The time my younger sis comes and ties Rakhi and asks me what I have got for her on Raksha Bandhan are all part of the beautiful school memories!!

Being brought up, not less than a son, we were as such never depended on anyone for fulfilling our wishes or for protecting us! Rather what highlights now is, my darling siso can actually screw up anyone for even pinpointing at me, not less then that typical brother who has got so much of possessiveness and love!

So this one is for all those sisters who have been like brothers! Protecting your siblings from slightest of the hardships! and of Course specially for my Darling – Samu

You indeed inspire me to the fullest! From the early morning fights of why you wore my shirt!?” to the night time “Are you gonna help me with pulling my blanket or should I sleep without it” you just are a package of energy which makes me myself!

Even after long fights where we actually sit with our backs across, the minute I need you even with that cranky tone you will be the first one to lend your helping hand! Be it a bad day or that one smile which you extra had, it has to first be “gossiped” in and out in us…. Be it Mom calling or be it friends when its each others secret that are about to unveil we both can actually forget the world!

My dearest darling babie – You might not know this, but then yeah without your presence the house actually swallows me raw! You being the neatest person in our room of two and being the one who loves things kept in place and I being the opposite our childhood just grew….and school bags turned to college sacks and laptop bags!!

Things which still remain same are every morning we still get up with bucket of complaints and every night we still sleep with “you know what happened today” stories!!

Thank you Maa-Papa…for gifting me a lifetime “cartoon”, photogenic artist, a beauty with lots of brains, my late night chat box, my first time recipe taster, my best critics, my dancer, my makeup artist, my gossip queen…. And the list can go on….!!!