5 By 5 Rule

What is 5 by 5 rule??

Best thing I did in the lockdown….

How much does it matter to when others give their opinion to you, how much do you keep thinking when others say something to you…? Definitely a lot. This is what I feel we are growing into

The 5-minute argument with our colleagues, parents, friends, partner, or anyone for that matter disturbs us the whole day.

Whyyyyyy???

So, here’s the solution to it. Its natural human tendency to keep thinking when others opinion doesn’t match with ours. But its okay right. You aren’t here to please everyone. there will be a difference of opinion when you do something new.

So, what is the 5by5 rule, all of you must be thinking about it till now

It is simple but will surely be a difficult one to inculcate. the more you start using it will seem easy one then

Are the arguments that you have with someone matter you in the next 5 years, if no then it simply doesn’t deserve your 5-minute attention and energy that you waste today. Quit worrying about things.

Lemme explain it to you with an example, let’s go backwards and think about life, what do you remember in the past, I bet it would be the most significant events and not everything. so, taking another example we recently build a new house and every day the contractor would come with some new reasons to not show up to our place and somehow avoid completing the construction. There was nothing we could do about it. The more we discussed in the house the huger they seemed to us. So, we finally just stopped discussing about them. Coz was that going to matter to me in the next five years, was it even worth wasting our energy onto it. That’s how easy it was. It really astonishes me how little a problem becomes when you start thinking with a perspective of the future

Of course, there are big things and tragedies that we can’t forget in a span of 5 minutes, but this rule is for the little things we stress upon almost every other day.

Definitely many of you might think I’m too small to speak up to all these things but why not learn these things at a tender age so that people don’t need to use the terms like depression, loneliness, anxiety much often.

I hope I impact lives of at least 5 and not many. And the rule stays with you forever, I’m sure it will work magical for you too.

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Journey!

Don’t focus on the destination, enjoy the journey!

Having a conversation with millionaire who was in his early 70s, verbal sketch was something like – a wrinkled face with a sparkle and a glow flowing out, attire he worn was perfect for a business class meeting (though he was retired man), head covered with dove white silky hair (as if one could play the find-black-hair challenge), hands shivering but still the handshake was firm enough to understand the throw in his personality, he stood all straight without a stick, very meticulously he had a choice about everything – be it what he wore, what he read, what he ate and so on and so forth! Impressed by the way he presented himself to me! I actually looked upon this young-old man to throw light on topics like life, career, future, goals and stuff and initiated the conversation.

And there this man had a crisp to explain me these things – which normally sound as rocket science for teens and a big fat topic for parents to such teens! He just had summarized in words which meant that love what you do! Without the fear of what will be the result. The more you get result oriented, the more mechanical you are. The more you tend to fit yourself in a strict format, the more you happen to be machine. The more you get into stuff of pulling eggs in one basket, higher are the chances to topple and break a few.

He had his view explained right with an array of examples – he asked me to climb the morning in wee morning hours and then notice the way the sky changes it colours from dark night black to beautiful golden orange. The cold breeze that kisses you all the while you push yourself to the top. The silent darkness turning to the chirpy morning. Once you reach the highest point, the journey is over and you arrive to your destination, the view from the top is treat to your eyes because you have seen the canvas of sky with the most beautiful shades, you had felt the chilled morning travel its way through to the first ray of morning. The destination seems better and journey wont tire you even through its longest route if you simply learn to live the process and not the results.

And wow! How impressed I was to acknowledge this thought while recollecting the biggest of my achievements! You too can take it as an assignment! May be while cooking or while on your way back home or while on a walk, think of your biggest heights you reached and you will realize the result gives you satisfaction and sense of completeness but the minute you find yourself smiling acknowledge the memory you just recalled which was a part of the journey you travelled!

Commitment!

Incredible things happen when you commit

Commitment – a high voltage word! Your partner asks you a commitment in your relationship, you boss asks you the same for your job, you team asks for it on the field and so on and on.

But have you wondered what of you fall short in what you actually commit – you lose… you simply lose your respect, your value your position; but then is it easy to commit!? No, not all rather! Had it been easy to commit why would the repercussions be so hard.

When you say you commit a thing – you mean that you are ready to devote your entire energy on that stuff! You mean that you will stand up 101st time even if you fall a hundred times! So, there falls your answer – Why incredible things happen when you commit yourself to it! It happens because you dedicate the best phase of you to the task not just to complete it, but to complete it in a way which shocks your own self. You commit when you desire to watch things beyond perfection.

Pune bags another award!

So here we get one more honor which simply adds a feather to all our efforts taken throughout the tenure. Pune WICASA as well as WIRC bags the best branch award in the mega branch category at regional level as well.

Mumbai – the city of dreams, was hosting the award ceremony along with the members’ meet. The evening had so many celebrities (of finance sector) is what I would call them who threw light on various issues backed with their suggestions for the new committees at national, regional as well as branch level. With all the speeches done right, the much awaited award ceremony started and it really felt honored when we held high the shields which had our name as “PUNE WICASA” encrypted on it. So basically both achievements of being the Best Branch at mega level, that too at regional as well as national level was not just the because few faces smiling and posing towards the cameras with trophies. It was an joint effort of all our Branch staff – our dearest admin – Deepak Sir, our editor and always ready to help Reshma Ma’am, The accounts team who literally called me to collect my reimbursement – Suvarna Madam as well as Ramesh Sir, Aarti Ma’am with her broad smile, Swati Ma’am with always fake anger on me but true care inwardly, Meenakshi Ma’am with best welcome smiles, Kaka and kaku for that ever readiness to freshen up our tired minds with the best tea and coffee ever. Swapnil Dada, Manoj Dada, Vinayak Dada with ever ready to pull my legs attitude, Shwetali Ma’am, Prashant Dada and Phadke Sankul Team. All our faculties right from Sanket Sir to Sheetal Ma’am, ITT faculties, GMCS and Orientation faculties, our speakers each and every one of them who supported our seminars, events with their enthusiastic participation.

And lastly, a word of gratitude as well as congratulations to the faces who represent all of them right from Anand Sir to WICASA committee members. Special thanks to Rajesh Sir who gave me an opportunity to work with such great minds and explore my own self!

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Let things happen!

Do you expect in life? At times from your partner, from your colleague, from a friend, from your parents, from your siblings or anyone whom you meet or at times even from the people whom you will be meeting and after all such expectations you unknowingly even start creating a picture of how you want things to happen! Does that happen? Of course, it does happen, because that is the normal human tendency to start creating thoughts of how one wants a meeting to happen, a deal to take place or a (for girls specially) how a surprise date must look like!! And it is yet again the same human tendency, which starts criticizing even at the best of the provisions made or best of arrangements done just because it did not match with the visualization of what one had in mind!!

These are the problems, and you might be like, Esha can we get a solution to this recognized problem of our brains!! So yes!! There is a simple way to get yourself out of the small talks and back biting which probably takes a toll on your health! STOP EXPECTING! Easier said than done! But yeah, one needs to control the mind which becomes a little extra creative when it goes on to expectation mode!

What Screws up in life is the picture in our heads of the way we visualized a thing to happen