14th of February…Worldwide celebrated as Valentine’s day!!
I wonder if the day is to be rejoiced as day of love…then why so much of chaos and hatred towards the people who show love!! Strange, the way people simply make up stories on seeing a girl and boy talking to each other on road side,classroom, corridor or anywhere…Be it they are dating or not, be it even if they are siblings, be it they are besties…We just got to understand one thing that “Ek ladka aur ladki kabhi dost nahi ho sakte”, Why so??? Well no one knows the answer, but still everyone will be there to make up huge stories and create all sort of nuisance…
Grow up India…Grow up as people broaden your horizons to think beyond the traditional way of judging out people, Stop pointing out fingers on other people’s daughters for a simple reason that you too may face the same cz you too have a sister, a friend, a daughter.
On second note, let’s take it as yeah there is couple who is dating…why can’t we simply let them love…why so much of bothering – caste, religion, colour, creed…I mean why can’t we simply rely on two basic things that if two people love each other then all we need to be assured is of both are well educated to be independent and secondly both are good as humans. Why does the caste system jump in middle….Why does the society out of no where becomes so hugely concerned of the two families?? (Girl’s & boy’s family)
Problem is like….even if girl is from a higher caste there’s a problem saying, no she won’t be able to adjust, whereas if guy is from upper caste there’s an issue being how can that girl adopt our rich culture!! Are we the followers of same Krishna who is worshipped as God of Love??? And if yes, then why can’t we simply respect the real life Krishnas and Radhas??? Why do they become a shame to family??? Why does a love marriage become a talk of the town if unsuccessful and arranged marriage even if broken within a month is yet fine??
Respecting each and every one’s views, I too am quite traditional in thoughts, respecting elders, obeying their thoughts is something that is instilled in me from childhood, but somewhere I do feel that we were also taught during schooling – Do not DISCRIMINATE people on any basis. The Constitution of India taught that we are all one.
I wonder whether your GOD said this that people who love each other should be separated even at the cost of their lives?? A simple and way traditional scene at our houses be like whenever families come to know about their children having relationships with someone not in their caste is something as follows –
- Mom in the house – Why didn’t you tell us before?? Did you do anything wrong with that guy?? What will our neighbours and relatives say???
- Dad’s reaction – Where did I fall short in keeping you happy that you did this to our family?? Now who will marry your younger siblings? You are a shame to the family (the same father who was proud enough to hold all trophies with his daughter in school is now ashamed just because she dared to love someone!!)
- Grandparents – It’s all your mother’s fault, she needs all those kitty parties, had it been my children I would not seen their face in lifetime!!!
- Other neighbours – We never thought she/he could do this, She/he was so innocent looking etc etc
- Relatives – Its okay where do today’s generation listen to us etc etc
The talks are just not stoppable…Why can’t we simply go ahead, and confirm out whether they are suitable professionally, do their likes match, are they compatible??
As parents, I respect the concern for your child, but honestly I feel sorry, that it is not the concern of your child’d security that gets you feel upset, Its the “LOG KYA KAHEGE???” fever!!!
Its an appeal to all, as children we need to choose people keeping in mind our standards in means of professional & educational background, so that there’s no question on your independency and stability later (not to forget that both families are yours, you can’t leave either of them). And for the parents, once try to understand your child’s feelings, if you are still insecure with reasons other then the caste system go ahead and explain it your child, I’m sure they will agree if you once try to be their friend rather then parent!!!
HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY to all of you!!!!
Love and spread love, make world a better place to live in!!!