Relationships! Can be friendships, love affairs or just any sort of emotional attachment which once seemed the most prefect thing for you and is now not! And you feel like a failure, it feels like we just wasted our time, energy, resources behind something which never meant to be forever and that creates issues where we find ourselves under sort of liability like “Oh my God, what has happened to my life”
Why do we have these failures – on deep thought it is because we have made our relationships too easy to go and fragile, we have started finding options much easily than before. We aren’t strong enough to work on our own flaws and prefer walking out of situations which genuinely need time and efforts to be sorted when things get cringey. Just received a message “Hey Esha, I don’t want to continue with my girl anymore because I doubt, she doesn’t have the same spark for me!…….” Brother, come on, how can you just walk out over a doubt. Have a decency to talk and sort then to just keep running off the situations. If you keep a habit to talk over your problems, you will for sure realize that half of the issues are created by our own assumptions and misunderstandings.
Going to the other extremes – When you both have decided to end a relationship, many a times it so happens that while taking the decision both are just so very particular and sound sorted like “It is fine, things did not work and so we have parted off our ways” I wonder what happens the minute you see your best friend or someone close to you, people start back bitching about the same person who was once their sunshine according to the Instagram captions! Don’t you think that when you talk ill about someone you develop negativity in you, you look more towards the darker side than the brighter side. No one has special relationships without being felt special, may be things haven’t been the same as you thought, so it is just okay to walk apart. Every person walking in your life teaches you something good which moulds you to better human than before, you can be thankful to that and go ahead. And yet another point I would like to highlight – As a third person as well – never comment on anyone’s personal life, have your opinions but don’t try brainwashing someone else to prove that what you feel is right.
Guys it is really okay to leave a bond how so ever long but don’t forget the maturity, don’t forget that though things are not fine now, there was a time when you were your best together – you laughed, you hanged out, you rejoiced your success, you cried your failures together. Just because now you can not work it out doesn’t mean all of it was fake. Be sensitive to your own emotions that you shared your best times with the opposite person somewhere in the past!
Down the line, it will be awkward when you see the person happy and you are not – Accept it that you are taking time to come out and the other one has pulled oneself out taking efforts on his own self. Just because he is happy doesn’t mean he cheated. In fact, take it as an inspiration that if he can, even you can come out – I highlight – I said inspiration and not revenge – He is fine I can also show I am fine and go out to parties even when you yourself deep down know that you aren’t what you are showing. Let there really be no show off – No yaar, not at least to your own self. When you stand across the mirror you must feel your smile is real and not the fake one!
Guys, you need not google out – how to come over a relationship failure. It is all within – you yourself know what works best for you, you know how you have got to train your brain to think rightly in your favor for your betterment. It is really fine to take time to heal but not okay to sit at one place doing nothing for yourself and expecting some one else comes for your rescue. Be your own pathfinder!
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